5 Books to Celebrate Diversity

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“Mom, am I white? Am I black? What color am I?” These are questions my youngest recently asked me. It’s easy to give simple answers, but what is she really asking? I wonder if she wants to know how to place herself in her community or if our color even matters. We are a bi-racial family living in a predominantly white community. My husband is ethnically Singhalese/Tamil from Malaysia, and I have roots in Northern and Western Europe.

If my kids hear nothing else surrounding this issue, I want them to know that our difference-- whether evident by color or not-- is good because God created us with different ethnicities. Diversity is His design and His delight. God isn’t color-blind. In fact, John’s vision in the Book of Revelation of people from every tribe and tongue praising God shows us that one day our resurrected bodies will continue to reflect that diversity in a way that glorifies God.

“After this I looked, and there before me was a great multitude that no one could count, from every nation, tribe, people and language, standing before the throne and before the Lamb.” -- Revelation 7:9

We’ve been reading books to our kids since they were small, but I recognize that they have mostly been those written from the perspective or experience of a white person. Those written in modern times are usually quite relatable to them, but I ponder what it communicates to my kids when they rarely read a book with a protagonist of color. I desire for my kids to see diversity not ignored but celebrated! I’ve been on a hunt to find good books with characters from diverse backgrounds. Some of these stories are set in other countries, but many feature the lives of Americans of non-European ethnicity. Join me in reading some of these delightful stories to your kids!

 

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Auntie Yang’s Great Soybean Picnic by Ginnie Lo

This sweet and uplifting story highlights the journey of Chinese immigrants who move to America and make their home in the Midwest. A Chinese-American girl finds her favorite food growing in Illinois - soybeans -  through her Auntie Yang. They start an annual soybean picnic that eventually becomes a yearly community event. I love how this book highlights a cross-cultural, intergenerational family and the story is written and illustrated by two sisters who are Chinese immigrants. You gain a sense of warmth and connection within their family as they seek to stay connected to their Chinese culture. As a bonus, you’ll also learn about soybeans and have the opportunity to see pictures of the real family in the back of the book.

 

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The Patchwork Quilt by Valerie Flournoy

A beautiful story featuring the closeness of a African-American grandma and granddaughter who worked together to complete a quilt made from the family’s scraps of old clothing. Each piece helps the family remember their stories and history and how they came together to create a beautiful work of art. It’s heartwarming to watch how Tanya, the granddaughter, recognizes that it’s difficult for her grandma to sew and cut, and steps in to help the project come to completion. I sensed the warmth of the family primarily through the lovely illustrations. It’s also a Coretta Scott King winner.

 

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Come On, Rain by Karen Hesse

The School Library Journal said, “Newbery Medalist Karen Hesse recreates the body and soul-renewing experience of a summer downpour after a sweltering city heat wave. Lyrically written and lovingly illustrated." I couldn’t agree more! This well-written, poetic story-- filled with metaphors, similies, and alliteration--  is about a young girl waiting for rain in an urban area. Rain finally comes and the young girl, Tess, and her friends celebrate by going outside to play in their swimsuits.

 

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Marvelous Cornelius: Hurricane Katrina and the Spirit of New Orleans by Phil Bildner

This heartwarming story is about the life of an African-American man who felt it was part of his calling to clean up the streets of New Orleans in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. Reading like a contemporary folk tale, Cornelius Washington illustrates resilience and determination as he does a seemingly insignificant job. Not only does get the job done, but he seems bent on dancing through it and lifting the spirits of those around him. You could have a myriad of discussion with your kids after reading this book. We could ask questions like: What does it look like to steward our time well? What could it look like to rise up in a time of catastrophe?

 

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God’s Very Good Idea: A True Story of God’s Delightfully Different Family by Trillia Newbell

"This is God's very good idea: lots of different people enjoying loving him and loving each other." We are all different, and God intended it this way. Newbell writes a story about the value of each person regardless of race, interests, or speech. “God carried on creating people. All of them were made in his image. And all of them were different too. Some were men, and some were women. Some liked reading, and some liked riding bikes. Some had darker skin, and some had lighter skin. Some had curly hair, and some had straight hair."  Newbell not only depicts diversity in the body of Christ, but she also shows how all people fall prey to sin in this broken world. We all need Jesus to redeem us, and we await the day when He will make all things new.

What are your favorite culturally diverse books? Tell us in the comments below!!

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You Could Be a Hero, Too

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“And He summoned the crowd with His disciples, and said to them, “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake and the gospel’s will save it.”

Mark 8:34-35

 

Rousing tales of heroes saving damsels in distress, romantic tales of valor and sacrifice, or heart-warming stories of family, home, children, history—I just love a good story. All of my life, I have been able to lose myself in captivating tales.

Scripture is full of dramatic stories of bravery (David and Goliath), romance, (Ruth and Boaz), courage (Moses stepping into the Red Sea with a couple of million children, animals, adults screaming behind him, being chased by the strongest army ever known), and so many more. And of course, each of us is living a story.

Maybe yours doesn't feel exciting at this moment, or strategic in light of history. But most people who are considered heroes of the faith were normal people amidst normal life circumstances, who trusted God even when the others surrounding them were naysayers and could not see Him.

The story told about you in the future depends on the story you are living today.

In other words, the situation you find yourself in today, whether it requires excellence in morality, courageous endurance, faithful belief, or overcoming love, is the basis of your integrity or lack of integrity tomorrow. You cannot leave a story of faithfulness in the minds and hearts of your children, grandchildren, and others—tales of faithfulness and courage and moral character and discipline and sacrifice making a difference in your own family history—unless you actually live your story with faith, moral excellence, self-discipline, and sacrificial love today.

All of  us love to hear great stories, and your children long to see you as their hero. How might the way you want to be remembered affect the way you live this day?

In our new book, The Lifegiving Parent, we talk about inspiring your children and filling their minds with the imagination of becoming someone living a great story for God's kingdom. You will be further inspired by the chapters we wrote about this in our book. This is a great gift to give to your husband or friend and to read together so you can shape your values toward the same end. Be blessed!

Covering Imperfections In Ourselves and our Children

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For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”

Ephesians 2:10

Sometimes, I find myself in a place where I want to run away—away from the challenges in relationships with my loved ones, away from the constant needs and demands of life (cooking, cleaning, work of every kind and then all over again.) I would love to flee the dramatic (all children, it seems, must go through stages—starts out with toddlerhood, escalates in late elementary years, explodes with teens, grows more serious with young adults, and then there is the period of self-realization that takes place with all maturing young adults, without which, there will never be humility, an acceptance of the fallen world, a humility that learns to give other imperfect beings grace because they have realized they will never be perfect.) It’s ok to feel like sometimes life is just plain hard.

But in those moments, we must learn to give ourselves grace for ourselves or we will explode from unrealistic expectations.We are putting so much pressure on ourselves as mothers. Each time we find ourselves too busy to cook (so we opt for fast food), too exhausted to clean, or so hectic in our lives that we didn't do a devotional with our children one week, we feel absolutely defeated and believe that we somehow failed our children.

While it is incredibly wonderful to set our standards high and live within these great ideals, as I have said many times before,

We must hold ourselves to a standard of grace, not perfection.Each of us is a miracle, a work of art, an expression of the artist God. If I really look at the beauty of my sweet ones, my family, my friends, beyond the irritating moments, I will be in awe of what sweetness God has shared with me. It is simple to see all the flaws in my children, my husband, and myself. And it would be easy for me to take the blame for their failures, since I am their mother, and responsible for training them!But that is not healthy of biblical.

Yet, I am practicing several commitments to help me see each person for who they are inside. And to bring a fresh wind of grace to each moment. 

1. Assume the best about people in your life and choose to love them according to their needs. Recognize that they are growing, struggling, living with their imperfect selves.

My little one is not plotting to make my life miserable by being needy. My children expresse his needs through crying and whining to let me know something doesn’t feel right in their world.

It is a grace for me to be patient and seek to bring comfort and, again, grace! Same with my teen, my adult child. Their motivation in life is not to frustrate me. They are frustrated with the imperfections of life, (of which I am one), but God encourages me to be long-suffering, patient, humble if I am to identify with and understand Jesus. I am their coach who gets to encourage them through the frustration. My husband is not necessarily mad at me but he is frustrated with the bills, the long hours of work, the things that keep falling apart, my friends also have a context that may cause them, for the moment, to be frustrated or angry. 

2. I am asking God to help me see people from his perspective.

I told  my extroverted children that they should not feel bad about being loud and bigger than life--God made them (and me!) that way and he actually liked them as they were as He made them that way. His design was good and  our personalities have a unique purpose. Look at always talking Peter, who Jesus called his "rock." What about David who danced before God with all his might and pleased God through it. Or the "too quiet" child who is timid. Perhaps this gentleness will serve to open the hearts of those needing a gentle, quiet spirit. Look for the good attributes of everyone you meet and affirm them for those great qualities.

My introverted children, who have to be drawn out with lots of time, are not somehow “less than” because they are not as visibly socially mature. They may need face to face, more time, but they are not any more broken for being themselves than the rest of us are.

3. Treat others the way I want to be treated. 

I have lots of moody times. When I am too busy, I become a drill sergeant. When I am depressed, I have darkness and cry. When I am in a hurry, I am impatient. Yet, I sort of want every one in the world to make me an exception, to just understand why I am grumpy and to give me a pass. I want perfect understanding for my hormones and I long for gentle love and affection, which, in my case, wins the day. Even if I do not always have what feels like it meets my needs, I can understand that my others long for something that their particular selves need. Maybe that is what my others want when they keep exposing their imperfect moods, too. 

I am not talking about not training and not helping your children to learn not to be whiners or complainers. We need to slowly train that out of them. But I am talking about how to understand, how to approach them as I am witnessing these things. I ask, "Is my little one too exhausted to be able to handle life in a mature way? Then I will be patient, cuddle them and put them to bed. Is my teen feeling rejected by his peers? Then he doesn't need more criticism, he needs a friend. Is my husband discouraged by something at work? Maybe he needs a cold drink, a time on the front porch to ease his bad day. 

However, rather than focusing on the bad, it’s more beneficial to focus on faith and the potential someday to be realized after years of praying and seeing God work through the moments I choose to be patient, kind and sympathetic; faith that God can take my honest offering of steadfastness, love and hope and make it into a beautiful legacy.

He will make up for my deficits and I will fill in the cracks for the deficits of those in my life. But in order to be the love, words and caress of Jesus to those in my life, I must relinquish my own needs, for the moment. This relinquishing happens one minute at a time--one detail of my life at a time.But this sort of love will change the course of my family's lives forever.

FATHER'S DAY IS COMING! THE LIFEGIVING PARENT WOULD MAKE A PERFECT GIFT TO GIVE TO YOUR HUSBAND TO INSPIRE AND ENCOURAGE HIM IN HIS ROLE AS A FATHER. YOU CAN GO THROUGH THE CHAPTERS TOGETHER. 

What Women Want & Need & A Podcast

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"I have loved you with an everlasting love, I have drawn you with unfailing kindness." Jeremiah 31:3

When God looks at us, his children, us who are fearfully and wonderfully made, He cherishes us as we are, His very own beloved children. If we could picture Him holding us thus, and looking tenderly at us, how differently we would feel in life. We would not worry what others thought. We would understand our great worth. We would treat others with more grace and acceptance for what we had received in our hearts.

From Genesis to Revelation, He is there creating beauty for us, providing for us, teaching us, dying for us, preparing a new home for us--ever the lover, ever the compassionate Father. He does not see us as failures, but as His children in the process of growing, on a journey toward maturity. 

I have been meeting with my national team of directors this weekend. We are passionate about coming alongside you to encourage you on this long marathon of motherhood. We know that you are strategic as mothers because you are helping to shape the hearts, minds, and souls of the next generation of adults. Your hard work will last for eternity. 

My team has developed the most beautiful, comprehensive and inspiring membership for our community. We dreamed about providing content each month that would feel like a mini-conference to inspire women. We envisioned articles about biblical leadership and helping women grown in their faith, Lifegiving Home traditions and articles, stories for children about musicians and artists, the best lists of storybooks moms could use with their own children, Bible study, legacy talks from me given over the past two decades of ministry, recipes, downloadable posters for table talk, group ministry ideas, and so much more. I just can't believe how beautiful it is. This is a small sample of what our over 1000 members received June 1, and a sample of what they receive each month. 

Our June content. 

Our June content. 

With 15 contributors and a staff of techies who support this site, we were able to make it as affordable as about 3 coffees a month. Join us and women from every continent to be inspired, supported, and encouraged in your own journey as a woman and mother. We have you in mind every month as we prepare new content for you. Read more about it HERE

Summer is a great time to refresh your heart and mind and we have special articles planned for this summer to give you some soul restoration. 

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This Summer, Go on a Hero Hunt! & A Podcast!

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“Then David said to the Philistine, “You come to me with a sword, a spear, and a javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have taunted.” I Samuel 17:45

When Nathan was a young child, he was captivated by stories about heroes. He spent hours in his own costumes, doing battle with swords and shields against imaginary villains.

One night we were acting out the story of David and Goliath. Nathan wanted to be David, because he knew David was the hero. Clay, of course, was Goliath. He ad-libbed some taunts with his deep Goliath voice: “I defy you, men of Israel. Send out a man. Come and fight me!” And then, looking at Nathan, he bellowed, “Why, you’re just a boy. Am I a dog that you come to me with sticks? Are you a coward?” To which Nathan straightened his back, raised his sword, and shouted boldly back in his four-year-old voice, “Yes, I am!” He wasn’t sure what a coward was, but if he was the hero, he would be one with all his heart. We couldn’t contain our laughter, but we quickly recovered and went on to make sure the young hero David could slay Goliath.

I look back on that night more than twenty years later and see more than just a fun family story. Even then, Nathan was putting hero stories into his heart. He would go on to inhabit other heroes in his childhood such as World War II hero Audie Murphy, Colonel William B. Travis of the Alamo, and his favorite hero, Superman. He told me once, “I think Superman is like Jesus because he came to earth to save people who needed help. That’s what I want to do with my life.” All those hero stories were cultivating in him a heart of faith.

Do your children have any specific heroes they identify with? Do you? If not, consider going on a hero-hunt—maybe together!

Storyformed Podcast Episode #29 - Using Stories to Enhance Summer Experiences

Do you want to travel more with your kids, but realize this may not be a likely reality in your near future? Or maybe you are traveling soon and want to enhance your experience through reading books about the place or culture. Today on the podcast, Holly Packiam and Jaime Showmaker share about their summer plans and give book recommendations to aid you in transporting you and your kids to other countries, the beach, woodlands and many other places and locations. 

Topics include:

  • The value in taking advantage of more space in summer to read
  • Ways to travel to nearby or faraway places through books
  • How to create summer booklists with your kids
  • Book recommendations 

To listen to the podcast and to view shownotes, click HERE.

Which of These Options Will You Choose When It Comes to Parenting?

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“Fear not, for you will not be put to shame;
And do not feel humiliated, for you will not be disgraced …”

Isaiah 54:4

I have often pictured my home as a boat on the water, with Clay and I at the helm,  seeking faithfully to guide our children to a healthy life of righteousness. The true source of grace, wisdom, beauty, health, and goodness in our family amidst the storms--the way we made it through--was totally the Lord, as we based our lives on scripture and walking with Him in faith. The secret is Him.

Yet the storm has always raged for us, just as it does for you. What are some hindrances to walking by faith as a parent?

Fear

When we walk by fear, we say, "What if I am not a good enough parent? What if my children give in to cultural storms? What if we do not have enough money to make it? I am just not adequate to this task." We tend to look at the storm around us and find it threatening, so we become discouraged. When Simon looked at the face of Jesus, he could walk on the water, but when he looked at the storm, he began to drown. Hundreds of times in scripture the impossible-sounding command is given: "Fear not!" If you are living in fear, the life of God will be squeezed out. We cannot live by fear in parenting, or we will fail to show our children the reality of God.

Formula

A parent who is dependent on Formula thinks, "If I spank this way, or follow these rules, or use this curriculum or find the right formula, then I will be able to raise a perfect child." This kind of parenting depends on works. This reliance on works is dependent on getting everything right, and can also be a little fear-based: certain kinds of music, dress, bad influences, tv, movies, people--life--will tempt my kids, so if I prohibit all of these things and hold fast to my rules, then my kids will be safe.

Of course, being wise about some of these influences is important. But our children have been born into a dark world. We cannot keep them from all that might harm them out there by using control, rules, laws, and formulas. God is still God, even in this time in history. Formulas will disappoint, because they neglect the heart as one of the most important factors of life. Following law will never equal the redeeming power of God and no matter how you search, you will not find the right formula--If God had wanted us to follow a formula, He would have made it easy and given us one.

Flesh

We tend to depend on ourselves and put lots of effort into forcing our world to be more controlled. This temptation causes us to think things like ... "If I just get up earlier, have more quiet times, control my kids more, make all organic meals, be a perfect mom, train them more consistently, provide the best friends, then I will have better children." The flesh depends on the advice and input of man, media, and experts, as well as always seeking to work harder and putting more effort into parenting.

Now of course, again, parenting is hard work. But when our focus is on trying to help God by exerting great amounts of energy, then eventually, we will come up against our own limitations and want to throw our hands up into the air and give up. "I can't do this. I am exhausted. I am failing. You have asked me to do more than I can possibly do."

And of course, that won't be true.

What's the alternative to these three failing "F's" of parenting?

Faith.

Since we know that God's will is good and acceptable and perfect, then we know He has not asked us to do more than we are able to do. It seems God used life to bring me to the end of myself--three out of four clinically asthmatic kids, seventeen moves, mental health issues, church splits, fire in our home, car accidents, etc. There was just no way I could do it all or be perfect.

But, God wanted me to walk by faith in Him. Every day I learned to give to Him my fish and loaves: "Lord, I know I am not perfect, I cannot provide all my children need. But I am giving you my best, my heart---here are my fish and loaves. Please, would You make it enough?" No child is the same. No family puzzles are the same. God, our devoted and ever-present Father, wants us to come to Him, to ask Him to work, to ask His grace to fill our homes, to ask Him who has access to the brains of our children, to draw them to himself.

Miracles happen where God is the One we depend on to work. We acknowledge we are not adequate, but He is. We release our problems and sadness, limitations and fears into His hands and leave them there, and then move to an attitude of worship. We do what He leads us to do and live within our own limitations every day. Whatever we do not get done, we put it back into His file, knowing we can have a go again tomorrow. He is the source of supernatural life, and He wants us to walk this parenting path by faith, just as we walk every other path.

He is the Way.

Do you tend to lean naturally toward fear, formula, or the flesh as you work through parenting issues? How might you begin today to walk more by faith?

Cultivating Character & Shaping Imagination LGP Clay & Sally Clarkson

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But the path of the righteous is like the light of dawn, That shines brighter and brighter until the full day. 

Proverbs 4:18


We began telling our children about God's path of life from a very early age. We wanted them to envision their life as a path through a forest. Though they could not see God, they could imagine a path He has provided for us because He is good, and he wants to help us find a good life, and find Him. The abstract concepts of God, goodness, and life became more concrete for our children when we expressed them in an image that was familiar to them because they had walked on forest paths. They knew about the safety of the path, the weeds of temptation along it, and the reality of becoming lost in the forest around it.

God's goodness is the source and foundation of your child's developing character. As they learn to value that goodness, their character will begin to be shaped by it; when they receive Christ and His Spirit, they will continue to walk in it. But telling your child the abstract truth that "God is good" is not enough. They need images that will clothe that abstract idea with concrete words that will give them meaning. They need a well-formed imagination to "see" the truths of God about their lives. That's what C.S. Lewis meant when he said that "reason is the natural organ of truth; but imagination is the organ of meaning."

You may not have thought about it before, but character and imagination are symbiotic. Your child needs both to become a well-rounded person. In these last two or the eight heartbeats of parental lifegiving that we've been discussing, look for the connections. Here are two brief excerpts from those heartbeat chapters:

From "Cultivating Your Child's Character"

"At its most basic level, cultivating character is influencing your child's heart, or inner person, to value and desire the goodness of God--everything about Him that is aesthetically good (all that is beautiful and praiseworthy) and ethically good (all that is beneficial and true). Metaphorically, it means your children, with your lifegiving assistance, are setting the moral compass of their hearts by God's goodness, the spiritual equivalent of true north."

From "Forming Your Child's Imagination"

"Most Christian parents do not fear imagination, but neither do they especially respect its power in children's lives. It's easy to wrongly assign it to the category of pleasant childhood diversions that will pass in time as their children grow into young adulthood. But children's developing imaginations need to be properly fed in order to grown into mature imaginations that can anchor the deepest, most meaningful concepts in Scripture. A faith that in uninformed or uninspired by the images, metaphors, symbols, and stories of God's Word is in danger of becoming unimaginative and unanchored, weakened by an overreliance on reason, adrift on a shallow sea of facts and propositions."

Hope you enjoyed the podcasts. Let us hear from you, We always love getting input. Thanks for the emails, comments and messages! We love hearing from you. 

The Treasure Chest of Your Soul

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"Make your ear attentive to wisdom, Incline your heart to understanding; for if you cry for discernment, lift up your voice for understanding; If you seek her as silver, and search for her as for hidden treasures; Then you will discern the fear of the Lord and discover the knowledge of God. For the Lord gives wisdom ; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding. He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk in integrity." Proverbs 2:2-7

Bone chilling fog wafted through the mysterious, ancient cobblestone streets as I made my way to school each morning in Krakow, Poland. Mists wrapped around the gray stone walls of the aged city, whispering of the hidden secrets of kings and queens who resided there through hundreds of years.

Living there during the Communist occupation meant that we could not buy much food. Meat was scarce and fresh fruit and vegetables were rare and brought into small, open-air markets only in season. But always, we could find beautifully carved wooden boxes of every size, shape and style.

Hoping that some day I would have my own cottage to fill with beauty and color, I would scan the hundreds of choices to find a distinctly crafted box that might someday find a place in my imagined future home. I was particularly drawn to the treasure chests that had keys to lock away precious letters, secrets, journals, or jewels.

Years later, when my home became a reality and little feet pattered around, my treasure chests became favorite relics in my home. Often, I would hide a verse scribbled on a piece of colored paper, some chocolate gold-covered coins, a tiny ring, bracelet, knight in shining armor, or small puzzle inside these boxes for my children to discover. Glee and intrigue would fill their hopeful little eyes as they opened the chest to see what was inside.

During a quiet time one morning, my eyes lighted upon one of my little chests and the Holy Spirit impressed me to look at the heart of my children as treasures chests. Filling the treasure chests of their hearts with truth, beauty, love, great thoughts, books and ideas, adventures, memories, traditions, wisdom, music, art, lessons, and all the good things I could imagine became a purposeful goal. I realized that I wanted to fill them with such an abundance of relics of eternal value, that they would draw beauty, strength, guidance, assurance, courage, and love from those deposits for the rest of their lives.

I also realized, though, that I could not give to them what I did not myself possess. If I wanted the souls of my children to be rich, then my soul needed to be rich because it was my soul they would draw from. And so the idea of intentionality began to engage the imagination of my heart.

Whatever I filled my mind with, whatever I learned and embraced, became the tutor of their education, as I lived my moments in their presence. Investing time every morning with the Lord was so important as what I learned in those moments became the passion I passed on each morning over breakfast.

What treasures are you tucking into your own heart today, so you can pass goodness on to your children?

 

Mirror Mirror

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“That’s not really how I look and sound,” he frowned.

My oldest son pressed the “play” button, viewing again the video of himself that he and his brothers had recently made. I watched as he studied himself with wonder, fascinated at the face staring back at him from the screen, unsure if he liked the voice that was coming out of the mouth that looked like his.

“Actually, it is,” I said. “That’s exactly how you look and sound.”

He cocked his head and smiled. “Really?” he asked. “I’m surprised! I guess I thought I look and sound different because I only know myself from inside myself. I needed my video to see me right!”

He giggled as he ran off to find his brothers, content with his newfound identity.

I smiled and returned to my book. It had been several months since I began it and I was still less than a quarter through the massive tome, but some friends were reading Kristin Lavransdatter, and I wanted to finish reading it with them. The candle flickered on the table beside me as I returned to 14th Century Norway, struggling to remember the unfamiliar names, but intrigued by the Medieval setting and the story of young Kristin.

I recalled a discussion about the book I had with those friends some months earlier. One friend had remarked how she hated Kristin, appalled by her depravity and foolishness. Others, who were much further along in the story than I was, heartily agreed. I had kept silent. At the time, I was only a few chapters in and Kristin was a delightful child. I braced myself for the fall from grace I knew was coming by their admonitions of her behavior.

As I read on, though, I found myself unsettled.  I hated Kristin too, yes. But I was unnerved by the discovery of how much I actually understood her. I was startled to find that her thoughts were my thoughts, her feelings the same as my own.  

“She thought about her own heart, which fully understood what was right and wrong, and yet she had always yearned for what was not righteous.”

The words resonated deep within me. Our sins were different, of course, but the stubborn willfulness to continue in them and to justify our actions were identical. And I was aghast.

“Surely not,” I thought to myself, as I wept over the pain and anguish she caused her loved ones. My heart broke for those she had dishonored and betrayed, but also for Kristin too--for her obstinate insistence on her own way, in spite of the consequences. “It cannot be,” I whispered.

That’s not really how I look and sound.

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