The Secret to Loving Children Well
Episode #467 (originally aired August 24, 2020; any giveaways, launches, groups, or meetups mentioned are no longer active)
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Awaking Wonder in our children is a practice that is very important to me. Whether your children are in public, private, or home school, you are teaching them and have opportunities to awaken wonder in their heart and mind. You may be wondering what that looks like practically. In my membership, Life with Sally, we share monthly Awaking Wonder units. From observing and studying nature to reading about history, our team puts together beautiful studies each month for our members. There is a PDF page summary that you can print and keep in a binder to reference, and there are hands on activites along with numerous book resources linked for you to check out from your local library for children and mamas too.
Here is an example of a recent unit (click image for printable PDF):
Another special resource available is the Awaking Wonder at HomeVideo Series. We have heard from our members that these are one of their favorite resources! There are twelve videos that include my adult children and a more in depth discussion of what it means to awake wonder.
I learned through many years of mothering and homeschooling that my children need to feel the freedom to live into the possibilities of all that they were created to do. They are not mine to hold on to—they are loaned to me, but they are now living into His purposes, His life for them, His calling.
“People asked me what our secrets were for influencing our children.
This is the secret: Loving them well, generously, all the time, in every situation.”
Being loved specifically and intentionally adds to our physical well- being, our spiritual equilibrium, our emotional health, but also our mental strength and health.
Probably the most important influence of my whole life in learning to interact in a healthy way with all people, including children, came from pondering Jesus and the way He embodied life-giving influence.
The attitude with which we come to our children will affect much of their response to us as teachers.
We can all see that humans are not thriving, in general. Despair, depression, loneliness, isolation, and rising suicide rates are common plights. But we must see that unless we return to a more humane and personal way of investing our lives, people will continue to grow more troubled, more impersonal, more distant.
To create a life where the hours and moments can be filled in satisfying interaction means that we must choose to fill the time our children could be engaged with machines or other entertainment with planned personal time that satisfies to the depths of their hearts, minds, and souls.
All of us need a place where our roots can grow deep and where we are a part of a like-minded community and have a safe refuge from the storms of life. Home can also give wings to dreams, nurturing possibilities of who we might become.
All homes will have a personality of their own, but part of loving well is planning the life and shaping the character that will define the unique attributes of the family who dwells there.
When a parent makes it a habit to be affectionate to a child in a way that accompanies their personality needs, there is an automatic connection. … affection is a sure sign of closeness and preference that often softens the instruction of a parent to a child.
As we evaluate how to love our children and students well, we must ask ourselves, ‘Do they believe and feel I have their best interests in mind, or do they think I have my own agenda for them?’ ‘Do they understand that even though they struggle, I am here to help them succeed?’ ‘Is their heart open to my instruction, or is there a wedge of resistance that I need to figure out and address?’
—Sally Clarkson, “Awaking Wonder: Opening Your Child's Heart to the Beauty of Learning”
