A Breakfast Celebration.....just because

 Scrambled, cheese eggs, homemade toast and Yorkshire Gold tea.

Thick purple and black clouds, sparkling crystal drops dangling from tree limbs, and mist dancing in the shadows of the trees met me this morning as I had my quiet time in the wee morning hours--it was a visual feast as is reputed here in the Colorado mountains. 

I was thinking about how this kind of beauty sometimes calls to a deep longing in my soul for more--more of God, more of love, more of purpose and adventure and life. I think that these longings are here because we were created by God to experience deep intimacy, profound beauty, heartfelt satisfaction. Yet, Paul tells us that in this world we see as through a mirror dimly. These shadows of reality here are but a taste of what is to come. Our longings are there because God made us to have them fulfilled--and so they will be in His new heavens and new earth. 

And so I told the Lord how very grateful I was for such beauty and goodness and love. My heart was full. Clay and Sarah are  are in Nashville, so it is just sweet Joy and me to hold the fort down this week. Even though I knew Joy had to go to work by 8:40, I wanted to share a moment of beauty, love and delight as God had shared it with me. So, before I awakened her, I lit the candles, prepared the food and tea and put on an old Celtic album that we love so that my little princess could come down the stairs to a few moments of civility and delight, devotion and prayer. 

I have seen that when the atmosphere and table are set, as God had done for me in the beauty around me this morning, God shows up in special ways for my children, too,  and allows us to have great moments of conversation and devotion together. 

As an aside, Joy has been a child care worker for 3 years at our local mops program. Our children have always had to work for extra cash. On a ministry salary, life has demanded that all of our children have had to work a bit. Last summer, Joy and a friend hosted Explorer Camp for younger children, where they read books, made crafts, dressed up as explorers and this is how they made money for the summer. This year, we will have some Princess camps with tea times and stories and crafts--(Thanks to Beth Martinez for the idea!) And they will also host, Mom's Day out camps with great adventures, stories and crafts to earn money for a trip in the fall.

I used to feel "bad" that we could not provide our children with all the things they needed in their lives, on our salary and with our limited resources. But now I see, that God's way has been great for my children. By them having to learn to work and make money, it has made them more responsible, thankful, humble and more prepared to enter into adulthood with a realistic understanding of money and work. So, I am thankful for His ways in my life, even though I may not have known to ask for them earlier! Some pressure and hardship is the very building block of our children's souls, so I learned as I was pondering all of this while writing Dancing with my Father, that His ways are to build His character in our lives. Ultimately, these paths give our souls satisfaction and freedom and peace. 

On to my day! Grace and peace to yours!

PS. I HAVE HAD SEVERAL EMAILS FROM MOMS ASKING IF I KNOW OF ANY OTHER AUSTRALIAN AND NEW ZEALAND MOMS WHO ARE INTERESTED IN HOSTING A MOM HEART CONFERENCE THERE OR IN ATTENDING A TRAINING TO START THIS MINISTRY THERE--I WILL COLLECT NAMES AND EMAILS AND SEND THEM TO YOU AS A GROUP, SO YOU CAN KNOW EACH OTHER! (SALLY@WHOLEHEART.ORG)

The Atmosphere breathes rest and comfort--and an invitation

 (Sarah's bedroom--always inviting with it's many comforts, beauty and interesting objects to observe.)"The atmosphere breathes rest and comfort and the many chambers seem full of welcomes."

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

When I was a little girl, and all my growing up years, one of my favorite memories was the parties my parents hosted in our home. It was not unusual for us to have 100 people at a time--friends from church, our own friends around a celebration like a birthday or 65 kids from my high school for an outside tea in honor of us all graduating. We did not have an enormous home, but it had some large, comfy rooms like some of the older houses did. But we would let people be all over our whole house--the den, living room, dining room, kitchen, on the porch, in the yard, almost anywhere they could find room. 

    The week before, my mom and dad would put all of us to work. The boys would mow the yard and pick weeds and make everything outside beautiful. My mom and I would clean the house and begin cooking. The last day we would pick flowers from our yard and put them in vases. We would have to dress in our very best and then we were instructed in how to greet guests and ask them interesting questions. We were also sent out during the evening with trays of cheese and crackers or cookies or deviled eggs or mini-sanwiches. 

We grew up with lots of unusual people and learned somehow to love and enjoy the company of lots of different ages and types. My mom had come from a southern home where people would put lots of shared dishes on a table (pot luck style) and stack dishes high and then spread the love with adults sitting on the chairs and porch swings and kids sitting on the steps or floors. In the south, in her little town, it is what you did--welcome friends.

    She passed on the heritage to me. I sometimes get to clean up everything ahead of time in my home and other times I just straighten and hope no one will notice dust. My sweet Bible study meeting is one of my favorite times of the month.

    Over the years when I have spoken at our large conference where up to 1000 people were in attendance, I would enjoy the opportunity to be in the company and atmosphere, but for many years, I have longed to have a mini-conference in my home, where I could really talk to women and get to know them and share from my heart. I also experienced when I was in missions, that when you gather people around a purpose and the word of God, He shows up in very special ways--and lives our changed and hearts are encouraged and hearts are lit aflame with vision and direction. That is why I am so excited about our leader's conference this August. 

     I get to host women in my home, for several days, over the Word of God and over vision and purpose and great meals and discussions and discipleship. Now I know that many of you would love to come and if this goes well, we will do it again, (and maybe again, and again!)

    But I have had so many questions about it, I wanted to write one more article so that we could clarify things. We still have room--especially for leaders--because a number of wonderful women have taken out applications, but not so many have filled them out and sent them back in! I know this is a very busy month--May is almost as busy as December.

    But the problem is that we have had requests from other moms, who don't want to be leaders just yet, but who want to come to the leader's intensive just to learn and be a part of the teaching. So, we are going to give all of you who are interested in the training to perhaps be involved in ministry, a few extra days to get that application turned in, and then we will open it up to the other moms that have been asking about it!

     I think we will have a wonderful time and I look so forward to personally being able to welcome you into my home!

 "You must come home with me and be my guest; You will give joy to me, and I will do All that is in my power to honor you."

Percy Shelley

So, I am including our newsletter we just sent to those signed up on our ministry letter list, and hope it answers some questions you have written to me to ask! Blessings tonight.

 

A Special Letter about the Mom Heart Leader Intensive Training, August 5-8

 

 


 

For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst. 

--Matthew 18:20 NASB

Yesterday, I met with eight dear friends who are helping me to plan, organize, and host the Mom Heart Leader Intensive Training here in my home, August 5-8. The verse above came to my mind as I looked around at the seasoned Christian women gathered at my table. As we discussed and prayed, there was a growing excitement and conviction that God is in our midst, and that his hand is on this Leader Intensive Training. I thought to myself how influential these women, who all walk with and serve God, will be in the lives of women who attend the event.

As a result of the meeting, we are changing the cost and the registration procedures. I'll explain that in a moment, but first let me tell you more about the growing team of speakers and their messages, and what the days of the Intensive will be like.

 

SPEAKERS

 

Sally Clarkson--I will share messages about the biblical foundations of the home, principles of discipleship and spiritual influence, and how to become an effective speaker and teacher. I will be training the attendees not just how to be someone who can pass on a godly legacy, but also how to train others to do the same.

Clay Clarkson--Clay will offer messages about biblical discipline and children training (a common issue for young mothers), and about effective writing and self-editing. He will also lead worship for the event.

Sarah Clarkson--Sarah will talk about how to keep your heart "thoroughly alive" to the goodness, truth, and beauty of God. She will also offer her insight on the power of books and stories, how to use them as a mother, and how to build a great library.

Phyllis Stanley--Phyllis, wife of Paul (below), will share messages about cultivating a deeper walk with God, being faithful in life and ministry even through the difficult seasons of life, and using your home for ministry.

Paul Stanley--Paul, Director of the Leader Development Network for The Navigators, will speak about servant leadership in life and ministry.

Zan Tyler--Zan, acquisitions editor for Apologia Press and longtime speaker and activist, will speak on how to become a great speaker and teacher.

Chris Sigfrids (tentative)--Chris, the Online Marketing Manager for WaterBrook Multnomah (Random House), will speak on the power and influence of the Internet, and how to use it to connect with and impact others.

Surprise Guests--We are still talking with other speakers who would bring messages on keeping your priorities at home, walking with God in difficult times, and other practical issues of having a personal ministry to mothers.

SCHEDULE

 

Evenings--Each evening, we will meet in my home for dinner and fellowship. I will have a friend share one evening about the Pre-Raphaelite artists and their impact on history, and another friend who will share the next evening about the spiritual lives of great composers. Our evening will include sharing of personal stories and testimonies, and of writing by the group.

Days--Each day, we will meet in the lovely home of my friend Deb Weakly for the main event messages. We'll all enjoy a home-cooked lunch together, and a tea time each afternoon. I will also show how I make my bread and cinnamon rolls and we will sample!

Housing--Housing is included in the registration. All of the women will stay in a new hotel near our home (sharing a double room). Breakfast is included with the room. For anyone without a car, we will provide all needed transportation.

Q&A

 

Q: Why is there a $10.00 application fee?  A: We will remove the application fee, and refund those who have already paid. The original purpose of the fee was simply to make sure those who applied were serious about leader training for Mom Heart Ministry since registration at the Intensive is limited to thirty women.

 

Q: May I attend for personal encouragement, even if I'm not ready for leadership at this time? A: Yes. Registration will be open to anyone beginning Friday, May 7. Because of the personal nature of the Intensive, those interested only in attending will still need to submit a completed "Attender" form as part of the registration process. Those interested in being considered for Mom Heart Leader Training will need to submit a completed "Leader" application. Upon submission, you will be eligible to register for the Intensive one week earlier beginning Friday, April 30. If you're not ready now, but feel God might call you to involvement later, we would encourage you to go ahead and complete and submit a "Leader"  application. Our response to your application will not affect your eligibility to register at the earlier date.

 

Q: Why is the application so detailed?  A: Those who become Mom Heart Leaders will represent us and Mom Heart Ministry. It is important that they share our beliefs, values, and philosophy of ministry. If you are interested in being a partner with us in ministry through speaking, writing, or blogging, the application is just a simple way for us to get to know you. It's just a first step, but it's a necessary one.

 

Q: What is the cost of registration for the event? A: After much discussion and prayer, we have decided to lower the registration fee to $400.00. To compensate, we will seek out sponsors for the Intensive. We will also need to seek out sponsors to help subsidize the cost for women in other countries who have expressed an interest in attending the Intensive. We have had serious inquiries from China, Korea, Holland, New Zealand, and Australia. If you would like to help, or know someone who could, please let us know. Funds donated for scholarships would be tax deductible.

 

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For more information about the Mom Heart Leader Intensive Training, visit the Our Events page on our website. We will be updating the information on that page soon, so keep checking back. Click here to go there now. You can also email Jennice with questions, or call us at    888-488-4466   888-488-4466 .

 

I hope you can come. We're expecting Christ to be in our midst as we gather together in his name.

 

In His Heart,

Sally

PS For those of you overseas who are hoping to come, please feel free to write us with your questions.

 

Glorious Design of Family and Home

  Lots of birthdays in April and May!

 In Genesis 1, we know that God created the heavens and the earth, and it was good. We can see the handy work of the Lord---the intricacy of design from snowflakes to zebras; an iris to a mimosa tree, the star light at night to a rainbow; the human body and a new born baby. All of this speaks to the magnificence of our transcendent, creator God.

Yet, at the end of Genesis, we read of the pinnacle of God's creation--the creation and design of the family. Even as God provided for the pleasure and physical needs of man by creating food and color and a lovely, safe environment, he planned for the emotional and psychological needs of man. He gave man and woman each other so that they could become companions and experience intimacy, the sharing of life and the sharing of the work, purpose and vision of life. But right off the bat, in the first blessing of scripture, we read that God provided children as a perfect idea before the fall. "Be fruitful and multiply."

Family was thought up by God to give all people a place to belong. "You are my family. We will be connected to heritage, values, calling purpose together for all eternity." 

The family and home was to be a haven of life--a place where celebration would take place; a port in the midst of the storms of life where one could come for peace, strength, help and security; a place of comfort amidst the demands and stresses of life---the rhythm of eating together, playing together, working together, and loving together was to be a circle of God's presence as seen through those made in His image to extend His love on the earth.

A mother and father were to be the  inspirational leaders, providers, teachers, counselors, cheerleaders, spiritual guides, and friends to usher their children into life with emotional, physical and spiritual health. 

All and more was intrinsic in the first design so that human beings would have a place to be cared for, accepted and inspired to lead a life befitting of a creature magnificently made in God's image. 

It is no wonder that Satan has sought to break up the family. If a person is isolated from all support and love and accountability that God intended to be his strength and foundation through his family, then he will be an easy target of false security and false values. 

And then, of course, culture will have no strength, because individual human beings will have no soul--there will be no development in the life of a child to prepare him for a future--loneliness where love, companionship and belonging were meant to be; self-absorption and self-gratification where sacrifice and serving one another were to be the glue to real relationships; 

a longing for meaning and a searching for it in all the wrong places where anything less than building the kingdom of God is offered. 

Destruction and vulnerability will flourish where family and children are not valued. A lone human being will be subject to any philosophy, any whim culture has to throw his way, because of the vacuum in his life that was intended by God to be filled through family.

I know that so many of you have come from broken families and are still in the process of figuring out life--but the rebuilding of a family and heritage, love and stability and security of a committed unit all committed to the best of each one and devoted to God's purposes, is where health and healing and life and love will be found. God is a redeemer. He will put all sorts of families back together again through the power of His spirit and the love He has to give to all who begin to build again towards the direction of the original design. 

A family, a home, a heritage is all worth fighting for--it is God's design, it is His way, the way of his best blessing--even in a fallen world--worth the cost for a future that is secure. Saturday ponderings.

 

picnicing in the mountains over our favorite outdoor feast--homemade fried chicken fingers and Texas sheet cake.  

Our wonderful arrows.

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The Mama and the Papa

Playing with the 5th child, Kelcy, at the end of the day.

Taking time for normal life, and enjoying it

Taking a break from blogging to live real life. In bed with colds the beginning of the week, and staying in my jammies for a whole day, watching movies, drinking tea.  Meeting with one of my favorite friends over tea and homemade toast, talking a million miles a minute since we get so few together.

 Spending lots of time with my two princesses at home and covering every subject and so enjoying a new English series at night (Larkrise to Candleford--produced in England, in the second year as a tv show--like the Avonlea series only English--delightful characters, beautiful music and wonderful cinematography)

 Red a Victorian novel about an old fashioned family and romance. 

Now,  having fun getting my princess all ready and dolled up for an end of the year event tonight. In a close family like ours, everything is shared ground--we have all had opinions about all the issues that come our way over the years---from haircuts to favorite music to who my old and young children are enjoying to who my boys and Sarah have had relationships with, to all of us having advice on how I should raise Joy--she has 5 parents, what kind of man Sarah should marry and , what dress Joy should wear to her banquet, what kind of clothes I should wear when I speak to not look too frumpy, if we like Clay's beard or not,  and no one gets to have their own privacy--everything is a family affair and these things are a part of the hysterical and whimsical strokes of family life. 

Having tea with Sarah, staying in bed longer than usual, meeting with friends I dearly enjoy and haven't had a real long visit with for a while. I may never write another blog! There's just too much life going on.

Your message defines you and a giveaway!

"As a man thinks in his heart, so is he," Proverbs 23: 7 What are the messages you listen to in your heart and mind? Your life will reflect what voices you are listening to and what voices you are believing. 

If you feel condemned, or inadequate, or judged, perhaps you are hearing that God is disappointed with you, or that He is a God ready to condemn, a rule keeper--expecting more of you than you can give.

Or if you live in bitterness or anger, you are listening to voices that tell you, life is unfair to you and God has not heard your prayers and no one really loves you, and He is not really good or He would not have allowed this to happen to you. 

Or if you are living with a real sense of His love and goodness, perhaps you are listening to messages of "There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." or "Even as a Father has compassion on His children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him."

Or if you are living in Hope, and peace of mind, the message in your heart you are believing is that "All things work together for good for those who are called to Christ Jesus." and "I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that He is able to keep that which I committed to Him." 

You are what you believe. Your actions tell the world what you believe.

I realized that I was in my heart believing that God was mainly interested in my obedience and works, and so I did a study on Biblical joy because I wanted to live life full of His spirit and life, I wanted to live as a person redeemed, not as a person enslaved. And so Biblical joy and walking with Him in love and as a child dependent on Him to care for me, became a message of my own life and so I wrote Dancing with my Father.

Messages of this world

The messages of this world bring hopelessness, despair, or fool us into false philosophy. Messages about women say, "Your job and salary defines you. It is what gives you real worth." or "If you are beautiful like a model or a movie star, then you are really pretty and have more value to others."

Scripture tells us, "A godly woman, she will be praised." One who values God, her husband, her children, her home.

These are the messages that I feel God has put on my heart to leave as a legacy in this world--to speak against the messages of culture.

It is why Clay and I want to train and inspire other moms to cultivate these messages and to write them, speak them, share them in our world with others, so that we can see thousands upon thousands hearing this truth of the word. And we are hoping that God will bring those who want to help write Bible studies, speak at mom's seminars, to help us get these messages to the world. So pray and ask God if you are one of those who will join us in starting a mom heart group or in coming to our leader intensive. And please pray for us in this venture of faith.

Giveaway

We have 3 tickets to the Old Schoolhouse Expo that we would like to giveaway to you. We also want to give away one set of our conference messages from a Whole Hearted Mom conference. 

To enter this contest, please write on your blog or in an email newsletter with a positive comment and give this link. You can receive an extra entry after you have given our link, by commenting here or on my facebook. Send your entry to Jennice, my secretary.

Another Great Opportunity

The website and blogs give us unprecedented opportunities to reach people all over the world with God's messages. I am so excited that I have been invited to speak at the Relevant Conference (link on my sidebar). A sweet friend, Sarah Mae, here, had a great idea to host a conference to encourage and instruct and inspire women to use their blogs effectively to cultivate their messages and to reach people all over the world. I hope many of you will join us there.

Cultivate your own 

Each of us has messages that we live out. A godly, effective woman is not accidental, but intentional. Write down what you want to have as the messages of your heart. Then live them, practice them and show them to all in your arena, that they might see and hear the truth and love of the Lord in every area of your life.

Off to a very windy, blustery day!

Mom Heart--moving in new directions

SALLY: Heart-to-Heart... 

Dear Friends,

We are so very excited to be a part of what God is doing in our culture at this time in history. Families are hungry for input, training, and inspiration to know what to do in order to have healthy relationships with their children, and to discover the purpose and fulfillment that comes from living according to God's biblical design for parenting. I want to tell you about several events for mothers coming up soon, but be sure to hear a personal message from me that I just posted on YouTube.

 

April 29: Schoolhouse Expo WebinarIn two weeks, I will be speaking, along with Clay and Sarah, on a special edition of the Schoolhouse Expo webinar offered by Old Schoolhouse Magazine. On Thursday evening, April 29, we will have our very own "A Night with the Clarksons" time to share for three hours about motherhood, books, and homeschooling. To find out more about the Schoolhouse Expo or to register online, go to theSchoolhouse Expo website. Also be sure to visit myITakeJoy.com blog where I will be giving away three tickets to this event. Each winner will also receive a special resource-filled digital "gift bag," a special promotional added extra from TOS valued at $300.00. Stop by today and sign up for the drawing!

May 1: Mom Heart Leader Basic Training

On Saturday, May 1, I will lead a one-day leader training seminar for women who want to start and lead Mom Heart groups in their homes, communities, or churches. You can register online on the Mom Heart Leader Basic Trainingpage on our website. The sessions will be filmed to provide DVD and online training videos later for women all over the world who have a heart to minister to moms. We are putting together a Mom Heart Group Leader Manual that will be filled with helpful suggestions and instruction on how to plan and lead a small group, and interact with moms. If you live near the Woodlands (north Houston), please consider joining us. We know how imporatan fellowship and accountability can be in ministry, so bring along a friend, too, so you can learn together how to minister to moms. My friend Sandra Maddox will be with me from California. She will speak on how to start a mothers ministry within a church setting. She began with a group of moms at Saddleback Church, and now has a regular group of over 200 moms who are being discipled and trained weekly in her Treasured ministry. She will share from her experience how to start and lead a mothers ministry.

August 5-8: Mom Heart Leader Intensive Training

Our vision is for Mom Heart to be an international movement of small groups for mothers. We cannot do that alone, so we are stepping ahead in faith to find other women who share our heart, values, and beliefs to be become leaders, speakers, and writers for Mom Heart Ministry. If God continues to open doors as we move ahead in faith, our plan is to host, on August 5-8 here in Monument, CO, a Mom Heart Leader Intensive Trainingevent at my home. Out of those who attend we are asking God to begin to raise up some who will help us with writing projects, creating blogs and web material, and speaking for events and Mominars (one-day church seminars for moms), all to help restore moms' hearts to God's design, not just in the states, but around the world. The conference will train them to present Mom Heart materials, as well as turn their own personal family stories into messages, both spoken and written. You can read more about this high-intensity ministry training weekend on my blog at itakejoy.com, and on the MHLIT event page on our website. Registration will be limited to 30 women, and a detailed application will be required for all desiring to attend (requires a $10 application fee available online).&# 0160;

Whenever times are challenging for Christians, that means there are also increased opportunities for ministry to others. We sense the Holy Spirit moving in the hearts of mothers, and are trying to respond "for such a time as this" by training mothers to minister to mothers. We hope you will share our heart and join the cause! In the midst of these days of challenge and opportunity, just remember that "the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you" (1 Peter 5:10). You are in our prayers as we pray that God's grace and loving care will be evident in each of your lives.

In His Heart,

Sally

 

 

 


A Few Closing Thoughts...

 

WHOLE HEART ONLINE...IS LIVE!: The all new Whole Heart Online website (www.wholeheart.org) is officially "live" and in operation. We're still a long way from getting all of the content onto the site, and we haven't really started blogging on it yet, but the new site is finally there.Come by and take a look! It will only get better in the coming weeks. 

 

MOM HEART ONLINE: We'll be turning soon to begin developing the new Mom Heart Online website (it will be located at momheart.org when it goes live). Stay tuned!

 

MOMINARS AND MORE: We are looking ahead to the rest of 2010 and into 2011 for church facilities to offer Mominars (a one-day church-based motherhood seminar) and other Mom Heart events. If you live in a larger metropolitan area, and are involved in a larger church that makes its facility available for ministry, please let us know. We'd love to explore new opportunities.

 

 

 

A YouTube message from Sally for Moms:

 

Mom Heart Ministry Leadership Opportunities 

 

 

 


  
Dancing with My Father

 

How God Leads Us into a Life of Grace and Joy

by Sally Clarkson

 

 

BUY IT NOW ON:

WholeHeart.org

 

 


Seasons of a Mother's Heart, 2nd Edition

Heart to Heart Encouragement for Homeschool Moms

by Sally Clarkson

   

 

 

BUY IT NOW ON:

WholeHeart.org

 

 


Read for the Heart

Whole Books for

Wholehearted Families

by Sarah Clarkson

 

 

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WholeHeart.org 

 


  Our 24 Family Ways 2010

A Family Devotional Guide

by Clay Clarkson

 

 

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WholeHeart.org 

 


  Find us Online:

 

Sally

www.iTakeJoy.com

 

Sarah

www.Storyformed.com

www.ThoroughlyAlive.com

 

Whole Heart

www.wholeheart.org

 

 


I want you with me," said the little princess.

  Polish Princess  by artist Peeter Danckers de Rij  Dressing up seemed to be her favorite thing to do. A perfect satin  dress all be-speckled with rhinestones and a swirly layer of ruffle at the bottom swayed as she danced backwards and forwards. "I want to be a real princess when I grow up and have a handsome man who loves me dearly all the time."

The mother heard the depth of longing in her little 6 year old's voice and wondered at her intense interest in romance that had seemed to develop over the past months as her little one talked of it often.

"Why do you dream of this so much?" she asked her little one as she sat upon her lap.

"I want to feel really, really loved and not be lonely any more."

"What do you mean?" was the confused question.

"You are never really with me and I want someone to be with me."

"I am with you all the time. I stay here all day with you and homeschool you and your brother. What do you mean I am never with you? I am with you all the time," was the frustrated reply. "How could I be more with you?"

"You are here in the house and you are always busy with housework and the computer and we are always doing the serious work of school, but you don't sit with me to play, or pretend in my imaginary world, or sit next to me--really with me,  and do nothing else, and eat popcorn when we watch a movie, or just talk to me like a friend. I wish you could really be my friend and like me, cause lots of time I feel lonely." was the innocent reply.

This story was related to me by a sweet young mom who realized she was getting the work done, but she was missing the heart of her little one and had taken for granted that her little girl longed for her companionship.

And so it goes, all children want to be loved and cherished and to have close companionship. If it is not "felt' in the home, the child (or adult) will search for it wherever he or she can find it. 

I see that many teens long for the same kind of affirmation. If it is not met with family, godly friends and community at church, many begin to look for love in all the wrong places.

Often, without meaning to, we are busy straightening the pictures on the wall of a house that is burning down. If we are to win the heart of our children or husbands or neighbors or friends with our messages, we must first woo the heart with our focussed time and attention and personally felt love. I have been so often of late with teens and youth who have this vacuum of love from parents who are busy, or critical, but not sympathetically engaged or  involved. And so they look for love in all the wrong places and go from one scarring relationship to the other.

So, though I am busy, busy these days, God used this story and reminder as an admonition to come home and seek the heart of my own growing princess, who has wanted to stay up and talk until midnight every night this week. What I would have missed if I had not enjoyed this week of heart talks and fun. Sleepy though I walk through my days, it has been greatly rewarded. These are the thoughts rolling around in my head as I go into the weekend. grace and peace.

I want you with me," said the little princess.

  Polish Princess  by artist Peeter Danckers de Rij  Dressing up seemed to be her favorite thing to do. A perfect satin  dress all be-speckled with rhinestones and a swirly layer of ruffle at the bottom swayed as she danced backwards and forwards. "I want to be a real princess when I grow up and have a handsome man who loves me dearly all the time."

The mother heard the depth of longing in her little 6 year old's voice and wondered at her intense interest in romance that had seemed to develop over the past months as her little one talked of it often.

"Why do you dream of this so much?" she asked her little one as she sat upon her lap.

"I want to feel really, really loved and not be lonely any more."

"What do you mean?" was the confused question.

"You are never really with me and I want someone to be with me."

"I am with you all the time. I stay here all day with you and homeschool you and your brother. What do you mean I am never with you? I am with you all the time," was the frustrated reply. "How could I be more with you?"

"You are here in the house and you are always busy with housework and the computer and we are always doing the serious work of school, but you don't sit with me to play, or pretend in my imaginary world, or sit next to me--really with me,  and do nothing else, and eat popcorn when we watch a movie, or just talk to me like a friend. I wish you could really be my friend and like me, cause lots of time I feel lonely." was the innocent reply.

This story was related to me by a sweet young mom who realized she was getting the work done, but she was missing the heart of her little one and had taken for granted that her little girl longed for her companionship.

And so it goes, all children want to be loved and cherished and to have close companionship. If it is not "felt' in the home, the child (or adult) will search for it wherever he or she can find it. 

I see that many teens long for the same kind of affirmation. If it is not met with family, godly friends and community at church, many begin to look for love in all the wrong places.

Often, without meaning to, we are busy straightening the pictures on the wall of a house that is burning down. If we are to win the heart of our children or husbands or neighbors or friends with our messages, we must first woo the heart with our focussed time and attention and personally felt love. I have been so often of late with teens and youth who have this vacuum of love from parents who are busy, or critical, but not sympathetically engaged or  involved. And so they look for love in all the wrong places and go from one scarring relationship to the other.

So, though I am busy, busy these days, God used this story and reminder as an admonition to come home and seek the heart of my own growing princess, who has wanted to stay up and talk until midnight every night this week. What I would have missed if I had not enjoyed this week of heart talks and fun. Sleepy though I walk through my days, it has been greatly rewarded. These are the thoughts rolling around in my head as I go into the weekend. grace and peace.

Sing a more beautiful song

Jason is the hero in a classic Roman tale who leads a ship of men in the quest of the golden fleece. As all good stories go, there are many adventures, battles and catastrophes. However, Jason is about to encounter the Sirens in his journey at sea.  Now the Sirens have been described in Homer's epic poem in Odysseus. They  live on three small islands and have the ability to sing beautiful songs that entice sailors to their Island and then they crash their ship on the shore and meet death and destruction. Jason fears being lured to the Island, so he suggests that someone should tie them to the bow and not let them go to the Island no matter what--that the ropes could bind him from doing a bad deed. 

However, it is suggested to Jason  that he needs Orpheus, a singer, to come to his aid. 

It seems Orpheus has the ability to play more beautiful songs more loudly and drowns out the Siren's bewitching songs so that they pass by safely. 

While talking to dear friends recently, they reminded me of this story. It seems to me to be a paradigm of what we need to consider for our children. When they are young, we not only build foundations of beauty and truth and love and goodness, but we also saturate them with the celebration of life and the joy of Christ in our homes, so that they will always consider our homes the most comforting, beautiful, peaceful place to be--the place of the most beautiful songs.

I have had many women say to me, "Why do you go to so much effort to do traditions, cook real food and celebrate life with your children? It feels to me like something more I have to do and my plate is already full."

It is easy enough to keep your children "on your team" when they are young and smaller than you. However, sometimes I don't think that young moms know to prepare for the teen years. 

In this culture, at this time in history, their are many voices crying out to our teens--media of all sorts--tv, movies, facebook, pornography--at their fingertips--and peer pressure. There is a point when all children have to grow up and own their own ideals. And most moms of young children just assume that their teenagers will love them and submit to them,  as they are loved and obeyed now.

But in this world, at this time, the Sirens will sing an alluring song. It is ours to figure out how to sing a more beautiful song.

Yet, scripture even addresses this for teens in Proverbs, which Solomon wrote for his own son when he was a youth. Proverbs 9: 13-18 depicts this voice of foolishness and destruction. Her name is Folly and she is calling out to those who are passing by, "who are making their paths straight." She wants to bring these, our children--whose lives we have sought to put on the "path of life" for our Lord Jesus, to destruction. She calls out to them, lies, deception and promises of love and fulfillment, through the world's ways.

However, earlier, Solomon depicts the other voice that is crying out--that of Wisdom. In Proverbs 9, we see that she sets her tables, she cooks her food, makes her place one of life, food, the atmosphere where love has prepared a meal.  

And then calls out to the "sons" of men and invites them to her home--she has great food, beauty, music, (probably) and invites, "Come into my house and learn from me. She is there to call these youth to excellence, beauty, truth to help them safely go through the passage of teenage years unscathed. She sings a beautiful song!

And so, as we reflect the image of God through our lives in our home, it is a necessity of our spiritual warfare that we provide and cultivate havens of comfort, a shelter in the storms of life, filled with wisdom, love, pleasure, deep satisfaction in an atmosphere of showing God's reality through it all. God was a creative artist--in His image, we create the art of life and so sing a beautiful song that will be louder to our children's souls, than that of culture.

I Love Easter!

Clarkson Traditional: An Easter Egg Tree

Now let the heavens be joyful,

Let the earth her song begin:

Let the round world keep triumph,

And all that is therein;

Invisible and visible,

Their notes let all things blend,

For Christ is risen, Our joy shall have no end! 

St. John of Damascus

I love Easter! The message encourages me every year. I love Jesus and his story and celebrating my adoption as His child. I love the grace that pours over my soul. I even love Easter Egg hunts and celebrating the day with friends and family. (We even always had a hunt even for our 20 year olds--each child in our family had their own color of plastic egg with goodies inside and we would color code the eggs to be more difficult for the older and less for the younger--though sometimes the younger ones were better scouts. Sarah would always look for pink, Joel--blue; Nate red and Joy purple. So much fun.

I also love Easter pageants. This year we were busy with 11 performances over 2 weeks to 50,000 people with over 1000 in the cast. I love our church and I am thankful for these weeks of celebrating in community and drama and make up and fun.

angel dancers (Joy in the middle!)

Joy and pals

 

May you have a wonderful, blessed day