Own Your Life Book Grand Prize Giveaway!

Cultivating close friends, gathering women in her home for feasts and Bible studies, and mentoring women in their walk with God, their role as a wife, and their calling as a mom has always been at the heartbeat of Sally's ministry.

Five years ago, she began to invite small groups of women from all over the world to come to her home for a 3-day mentoring weekend. Homemade gourmet meals and daily tea times set the atmosphere for relaxing, being served, and having the opportunity to get to know the other women attending.

Tyndale Momentum PublishingGroup has decided to send two of you to Sally's next mentoring conference as their guests!

The retreat in the beautiful Colorado mountains will inspire you, challenge you, and feed your heart's need for friends and fellowship. And having women personally invest in your life, enjoying personal mentoring sessions with Sally, and enjoying a luxurious breakfast buffet at the 5-Star Broadmoor Hotel are a traditional part of the weekend.

To keep it intimate and personal, the retreat is exclusive and only small groups of women are invited to attend.

You can buy the book now! Here!

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As a celebration to the launch of her new book, "Own Your Life", the winner of the RaffleCopter will win 2 tickets to the conference (a $900 value), two free airline tickets from your home to Colorado (within the continental United States), a hotel room for the days of the conference, and all meals and materials... a total package worth over $2000.

The winner may also invite a friend to participate with her in this life-changing weekend.

The conference dates are June 11-13, flying home June 14.

To enter the giveaway, be sure to share the RaffleCopter options below between January 6th and 12th. The more you share these options, the greater your opportunity to win. Each person may share these options every day. The winner will be announced Tuesday, January 13, 2015.

Hope you win!

Be sure to buy the book today for inspiration for the new year!

 

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Celebrating the "Own Your Life" Book Release and AMAZING Give-Aways!

bg-collage (1) Today is the day! My new book, Own Your Life is officially releasing. I pray it will be inspiring to women all over the world. Since I became a believer in college, discipleship--encouraging others in personal ministry and close relationship, has always been the heart-beat of all the days of my ministry. We started our ministry by faith almost 20 years ago. During that time, we have published 14 books, produced in 10 languages, hosted mom conferences for 36,000 women, blogged for 9 years, ministered internationally, and watched God take our messages literally all over he world! (Speaking in the United States congress, in universities and arenas all over China, meeting with women and training them in over 12 countries, hosting leadership trainings in my home, and so many more opportunities.) God has overabundantly blessed Clay and me and our family through the years and we want to keep giving back to you! Discipleship, motherhood, family and kingdom to honor Christ, is always at the center of all that we do.

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To celebrate this, we will be having some amazing giveaways all week. Because it is my launch day, I want to give lots of Whole Heart ministry products to encourage many of you and to thank you for joining me in this launch and spreading the word about my book and webcast to your friends.

First, I want to give away 5 copies of my new book. Own Your Life--and encourage you to gather a group in your town or join a couple of the online groups. (thebettermom.com and http://www.thebettermom.com/the-better-mom-book-club/ and Sarahmae.com)

Because it is a day of celebration, I want to give lots of Whole Heart ministry products to encourage many of you and to thank you for joining me in this launch and spreading the word about my book and webcast to your friends.

A Free Conference Ticket

Almost 20 years ago, when I was overwhelmed with my own four children, I knew there needed to be a special conference just for moms. It would be filled with inspiration to mamas could understand that the discipleship of their children would invest in eternal results and that their call was of supreme importance to God. I also wanted it to be in a lovely hotel, there would be chocolate, a lovely luncheon and lots of grace, not guilt, and fun friendships the whole weekend. Now after serving almost 36,000 women, I see the need more than ever. That is why I want to encourage moms to come and join us. I also want to give away a free conference ticket to any of the three locations. (For more information, go HERE.) If you have already registered and you win, we will refund your money.

Here's what other moms are saying about Mom Heart Conferences and how they have impacted their lives:

"I'm not sure why I'm so surprised each year- its inevitable and hits hard time and time again: that let down feeling after Christmas, when all the beauty of the season is packed away, the twinkling lights back in their bins, every gift opened, long anticipated celebrations have passed. A bit of loneliness always sets in as I look ahead to the dark months of winter still before me; the season of winter without Christmas. I am so thankful that Sally knew this season is universally difficult for moms, that in the darkest months we crave light; crave community and encouragement and laughter. The Mom Heart conferences have become an anchor in my winter season, right in the midst of the time of year when I feel most depleted and unsure of myself, I know I can gather with other mothers, be built up and made ready to return home refreshed and excited to love on my family and create beauty and life giving rhythms in my home. If you are feeling that post- Christmas slump creep in this week, if you feel alone, if you aren't sure how to pursue all you long for in your mothering, I'd love for you to join us this year in Denver, California or Texas! Your heart will be made strong and you will be ready to keep going in your journey as a mom." - Kristen Kill, blogger and editor, New York, NY.

"I love MomHeart Conferences because I know God is faithful to meet me there, no matter what frame of mind I show up in.  He gracefully takes my baggage from me the moment I walk in the doors.  He speaks life giving words into my soul, he fans the flame of the dreams I've been dreaming for my family and he reminds me that he is a God in the business of making the impossible become possible.  Through Sally's example of a faith filled and devoted life, God speaks to the very core of who I am as a mother.  He reminds me I am created to create life and cultivate beauty, to invest with intentional purpose and to call into existence what isn't yet.  I always leave feeling renewed in my purpose to steward my children for the glory of God and his purposes."  -Jennifer Kindle, Texas

"The anticipation of attending a MomHeart Conference can carry my spirit a long way.  Just knowing that I will be gathering with other women who are busy, exhausted, overwhelmed yet totally in love with their calling of being a mom and discipler to their children spurs me on in the trenches of everyday life. Once the conference begins, it's like God brings a little Heavenly oasis to earth and for those two days, my soul is filled with nuggets to take back to my home, family, and ministry.  I truly feel like an ambassador who has been given the charge of taking the wisdom and encouragement from Sally's messages back into a world that has lost its way; implementing her wisdom into my family, sharing her encouragement with my friends, and taking her words to moms who are alone.  That is my mission for attending MomHeart conferences."  -Renee Parris, North Carolina, hearmyheartbeat.org
"Sally Clarkson taught me that my children are my ministry. You wouldn't think I needed a reminder but each year at the mom heart conference, I am grateful she reminds me! I need to go so she can fill my cup to overflowing so I can pass that on to others." Tami Cooke, Richardson, TX
I attended my first conference in 2000 in Dallas . I was pregnant with my fourth child and quite overwhelmed by life."Having been raised in a broken home I lacked the tools to parent well. Furthermore I was a spiritual babe but longing for more for my family. It was that first conference that convinced me whatever the Clarkson family was doing worked! As their children participated in various parts of the conference I saw fruit in their lives. As Sarah, who was 16 then, shared, I knew I wanted the same for my oldest daughter who was then 8. Every year since I have attended a conference. As I embraced the ideals presented of living a life of faith I began to see fruit in our own lives. Fourteen years later I still need the encouragement and inspiration that comes from gathering with like minded moms and hearing inspiring talks on living a life of faith. I hope you will consider coming as an investment in your family!" - Pam Graves, mother of 5

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Today I'm also giving away some of my favorite books from Whole Heart ministries!

You can enter in the rafflecopter below to win a bundle of books containing ALL our ministry favorites: The Mission of Motherhood, The Ministry of Motherhood, Our 24 Family Ways, Educating the Whole Hearted Child, Seasons of a Mother's Heart and Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe!

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And to celebrate the release of my newest book, Own Your Life, I'm giving away 10 Copies today! 

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I'm so honored to be sharing about my new book at the blogs and podcasts of some of my sweet friends  today. Visit Sarah Mae, Kat, and Heather and enter to win the give-aways they are sharing today!

And Tonight, join Crystal Paine, Sarah Mae, Angela Perritt and I in a  webcast! You can even tweet along and join us in a live conversation. I would love to have you there.

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Flourish in 2015! Own Your Life and Engage in God's Purposes

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Woo Hoo! Yippee! Yay!

I am so excited that I get to share my newest book with you this week. To celebrate, I will host giveaways, an exciting and inspiring webcast and a surprise grand prize that will be a fabulous gift to two of you.

Can't wait till tomorrow when it officially launches.

Many years ago, our 4 little ones had been cuddling together on a snowy night near the fireplace as we read Treasures of the Snow, a wonderful story of Patricia St. John. At the end of the chapter, my little boy looked up and asked, "Mama, do you have to practice being brave when no one sees to be brave when someone needs a hero? Cause someday, I want to be a hero and want to know what to do to become a hero in my own life."

I believe that within the heart, mind and soul of every single person born, it the stamp of the divine, the imprint that gives each of us the opportunity to become great, loving, strong, civilized, heroic within our own story. But so many never tap into their God-given assets. And life can seem lonely, meaningless and stressful when we get lost on our personal journeys.

I wrote my new book, Own Your Life, to remember with other women, what God created their lives to become. I want to encourage and inspire other sweet friends to know that God is waiting to bless their lives as you learn to walk your days and write a story that He created you to live.

When someone knows our heavenly Father, the one who is eternally good, always with us, wise in every way, compassionate, redeeming, forgiving, then their lives will be forever changed and always a reflection of His life and light.

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If you know God, your life will display strength and the Holy Spirit will compel you to take action in your world--it is a natural result, a spontaneous consequence of His life living through us. We are made to become heroes of faith in the stories that will be told through out eternity. But we need to have vision and insight about how this works itself out in real, day to day life.

If God would have compassion on the world, then His spirit would have compassion on the world through us. If God would forgive, love, create, civilize, discipline, bring beauty, instruct, inspire--then His Spirit living through us would naturally produce the same. There is no passivity or ambivalence in the life of a believer who is engaged in a spiritual relationship with God.

My children, as adults, have come to know me, my personality, my support and love, my convictions, my goodness, my provision for their lives for through our many years of doing life together. Now, through the process of our knowing and living with each other , has made them appreciate me more because they have lived with me for so long. And similarly, growth, maturity, understanding  and living into His reality is a process over time, a spiritual awakening that grows each day The spirit inside of us gently pushes us on to life, healing, restoration, goodness. Proverbs gives picture to this, "The path of the righteous is like the dawn, shining brighter and brighter until the full day."

Jesus said, "If you abide in me, you will bear much fruit." It is a consequence of knowing, living in Him, not in our flesh, our works or best efforts.

Hudson Taylor, the powerful missionary to China struggled with his own failures, his burdens, his own personal guilt as all of us do. Yet, he discovered the secret of Christ through Him--living by faith in the one who promised to provide, to comfort, to give peace and it transformed his life.

Though his arena and work load grew bigger his whole life, it was said that each day, he was a man who walked peacefully because he allowed God to carry him through his days--his burdens, his cares, his sins, his flaws--left them in the hands of God.

As we all begin a new year, we can make 2015 the best year of our lives, but it must start with knowing Him so well that we can trust Him.

What does it mean to know our God?

1. First, we must come to know the truth about Him.

He said He would never leave or forsake us. He said He would be our peace. He said nothing could separate us from His love. He said He would discipline us like children so that we could share in His holiness. He is the provider, protector, comforter. The only way we can know Him is to seek Him, study the ways of Christ, listen to the stories of His faithfulness, learn His attributes in scripture. Knowing His intimate ways in our lives is the way we grow in the reality of walking with Him. It is not working or being perfect or deserving or striving--it is resting in Him and trusting in His work in our lives.

2. We cannot move forward until we have put our past to rest.

"Behold I will do something new, will you not be aware of it?" Isaiah 43:19

Talking with some friends this week, I have realized again, that often our scars, fears, hurts, failures can be so loud in our lives, that we try to justify ourselves, but always come up short. Perhaps you have been abused by your parents or relatives, friends or husband--either actively through anger or passively by being ignored. Maybe you have had some grand failures (we will all keep failing till we get to heaven.)

But we need to put these issues to rest once and for all and let God take them for us. There is a process of grieving our losses--God acknowledges our suffering--he cried when his friend Lazarus died. He despised the shame he felt at the cross. He understands our issues.

But then, we must move on to the hope that is in Him, and the hope of all things being made new--including us. He defines us by our new heritage, our new identification, and so we must move beyond the past and live into the future of His generous provision and love.

3. Dealing with the issues that drain you inside today are necessary to moving forward in His strength.

As seasoned travelers, when we go on a mission trip to Europe or China, we pack one small carry on piece of luggage and wear live out of it for three weeks at a time. Why? Because we do not like to carry extra weight--it is a hassle. The lighter we pack the easier the trip.

What unnecessary baggage are you carrying every day that weighs you down?Look into your heart--any lack of forgiveness there? Any fear? Guilt? Inadequacy? voices of condemnation? He wants you to be free of your baggage, but you must give it to Him, get rid of it, one piece at a time,  in order to find freedom and ease for every day.

4. Move into the ministry mode

The second half of the Daniel verse days, "Those who know their God, will take action."

"For we are God's masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago." Ephesians 2:10

"Mom, it seems like the more your ministry has grown over the years, the more people you have to love and who love you back."

God created us to have relevant lives--lives of giving, helping, serving. He knows that we bloom when we are giving and growing into the skills He gave us to use in life.

You, as you are, were created to be an important part of God's mega-story. He has a role for you to play in the grand scheme of his kingdom work in this world.

There are people in your life that you are called to love, to serve, to instruct, to show compassion to, to give to--only you can fill that role. And He has designed that if you fulfill your stewardship of His call on your life, you will find ultimate satisfaction and contentment. He made you with your personality, gifts, drives because only you can fulfill your part in His kingdom work. The more you are yourself and live into the puzzle of your life, the more meaningful your days will be.

Assessing our lives from God's point of view, seeing our lives through the grid of faith and His calling, will give us energy for our days.

How can you live into God's plans for your life? How will you invest your time for eternity instead of for this world? How will you love well, give generously, live with radical faith in 2015?

This is the year to Own Your Life, because it is not just possible to live a full, flourishing life, God designed you to live this way. 

I would love to know, how do you plan to Own Your Life in 2015?

Don't miss the fun, inspiring, personal, delightful webcast I am hosting with my friends tomorrow night. Be sure to sign up ahead of time so that you can know how to join us! Can't wait to be with you there. And we will be there to have a live chat when it is over!

Register HERE!

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Having a Mindset that says, "I will redeem this moment!"

snowy night I will redeemAt least 5 times in the past two weeks, we have had to cancel plans for gathering with friends, or celebrating a tradition or going on an adventure due to lots of snow, or to illness. As a mama, I often want to please everyone, but disappointments are a way of life during some seasons. Joy is only home for a short while and she will be leaving in a couple of days. All of us were looking forward to a really fun planned family time tonight. We had about 6 inches of snow in Monument, it is 8 degrees, in just a few hours, on top of the old ice and snow, and the highways have accidents, and so we had to cancel our plans--AGAIN!

I  have been reading a couple of great books that have encouraged me to walk in the power of the Holy Spirit as a way of life, moment by moment, living in His provision whatever life brings. One of the glories of a woman is to be able to light a candle in the darkness so to speak, to bring light and beauty, to redeem moments by creating beauty, an atmosphere of contentment and life to those in our sphere.

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Tonight, our home was covered all about in snow.

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After clearing all the Christmas stuff out, I lit about 10 candles throughout the living room, lit the fireplace, turned on my Pandora to instrumental music, and told everyone that we would have a lovely snack meal cozied up in the living room where we could watch the snow.

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We donned our coats  and took a moonlight walk in the snow. (I was roasting almonds in the oven with sea salt and tossed in melted butter--yumm! The best.

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and then went inside to read an amazing book on snowflakes. I cajoled Sarah, Joy and Joel to all sit by me on the couch to look at the amazing photography, just like times of old. The beauty and science behind it was amazing. And we all cozzied and loved looking at the amazing designs that cannot be explained or duplicated by men.

Then a snack meal, a rousing game of Golf, (a card game), with Clay and me and all the rest, and ending the night with warm caramel sticky toffee pudding and whip cream--another not to miss desert!

Now, I do think, we will have great memories from a the 5th night of changed plans, but this night was definitely a night to remember, and all of us enjoyed it after all.

We "own our evening"! :)

How have you redeemed your disappointments this month?

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My book launch begins next week and I can't wait to celebrate the evening with our free webcast with YOU! Be sure to sign up so you don't miss it. We have already had so many from all over the world who will be joining us. What a great way to start a new year--with friends! Sign up HERE!

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A New Year, Ready to be Launched! Own your life in 2015!

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One more Christmas picture where we almost caught everyone smiling! (and it only took about 8 attempts--amidst groans, guffaws, hilarity and "We have enough, already! A big discussion was if the boys should put their hands in their pockets or not! :))

"Show me, O LORD, my life's end and the number of my days; let me know how fleeting is my life."Psalm 39:4

I have put one more Christmas to rest and now another year is upon me. I see more clearly, the older I get, that life is indeed a passing story where I have the opportunity to live in such a way that my story can be one of pointing to God's goodness, His faithfulness, His kingdom, His ways.

But to live a story well, I must make choices every day, to live that as my integrity and love to be intentional in my commitments.

This holiday season was one of the best I remember for a while. Seems all the kids have snuck into adulthood while I was busy and they have become strong and established in their own personhood. It is sweet tasting to my heart and soul to see them love each other, prefer each other, want to be together and affirm each other in our presence--even amidst small and petty arguments, natural personality conflicts and differing opinions.

After all, we trained our children to think, to be convicted, opinionated, and so they are. But their preference for each other as best friends and the "holiness" of our family community eventually trumps the differences that are natural.

If I ever wondered that all the work of training, loving, correcting, serving my children was in vain, I now know that it made a difference--that God was indeed at work using a small vessel like me to fill and form their souls. (And yes, throughout the years of fussing and tension that existed in normal life, I didn't know they would end up such great friends--Simply amazing and wonderful--take hope!)

Just this morning, a phone call from a grateful child and  filled my heart. "Mom, you cooked and cleaned and served a lot this Christmas--but we were all watching and it went deep into my heart. The messages you shared and the devotions we had while we were home penetrated deep places and I just wanted you to know your labor has not been in vain. I love you and appreciate you more than I ever have."

A sweet salve to my heart and an unexpected surprise after working and serving this season.

Some thoughts have bubbled up during their time at home......

Discipleship is never over.

In the midst of the busy days, I was sequestering each child by themselves to pour in vision and encouragement and words of life and exhorting, because I know more than ever how short my time is--and I know that they all have many voices in their pathways vying for attention.

And so I remind them, "How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, nor stand in the path of sinners, but His delight is in the law of the Lord" and then over coffee and laughing and sharing hearts, I remind them again to seek the still small voice and the holy way above the other noises of life--and to seek to see His fingerprints and heartbeats.

Another thought is how my family fills my cup, and lives a reality that blesses me and renews my own courage and faith, as I want to be strong because they believe that I am strong. As our family has practiced the presence of Christ, His words, His feasts, His love, His truth, His mission as a way of living every moment together, we have become a strong fellowship of Christians moving toward similar missions of glorifying Him together.

Sometimes when I am exhausted, like now, and have lived through a looonnnnggggg year of trials, I am tempted to compromise my ideals--just a little here and there without noticing.

But that is not His way, and I do not want to capitulate to the ways of weariness. And so amidst serving them, I was called to a higher standard just by hearing them talk and dream and idealize--those I have served are now serving me and exhorting me to hold fast and stay the course!

And so, the next few days, I must follow the advice I gave to them, for myself. I will leave the internet, go away by myself for 2 nights and 2 days and be before the Lord.

What work do you have for me this year? How can I serve your purposes? What do I need to correct? How can I better serve you? Show the light of your life onto all the hidden places of my heart and let me give all of them to you.

 I want to hear Him, His voice, His priorities.

I have found over the years that many people seem to know "God's will" for me and are free with advice. But I want to hear Him, follow Him and please Him. I am feeling the rumblings in my heart to pull back further from culture and expectations of others to have more time intentionally to invest on those areas that are on His heart and to make sure I have time with real live people to be personal and focussed in my love. But before I make any decisions, I must go to Him to hear His voice.

I would so appreciate the prayers of friends as I go into my vortex to seek Him, that I would be still and know that He is God, and please pray I will truly know how to follow His priorities and do what He wants, no matter what the other voices say.

And so, today, I wish you not only a happy new year, but a blessed year, a time when you can see His love and commitment to you and hear His voice of wisdom and compassion.

And along the way, may you have a lot of fun and enjoy this life He has placed into your hands.

Be blessed, my friends.

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I  hope many of you will be able to join us this year at our Mom Conferences where I am more passionate than ever about helping sweet women to learn the ways of discipling their children, reaching out in ministry, finding God's ways and favor every day.

For more information and to register for the Mom Heart Conference nearest you, go HERE. 

In 2015, I pray you will learn anew, to Own Your Life and live for God's glory.

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If you are alive, then you will have conflict!

Own your life book Let the love of God “As long as we continue to live as if we are what we do, what we have, and what other people think about us, we will remain filled with judgments, opinions, evaluations, and condemnations. We will remain addicted to putting people and things in their "right" place.”

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From the first chapters of the Bible, we see conflict--between Adam and Eve, as she wants to lead him astray. Between Satan and God over the loyalty of hearts of the first children He made. Cain and Abel. And it goes on from there.

Sometimes Hollywood makes us think that it is possible to be married to a perfectly compatible partner. Formulaic parenting books suggest that if you just follow the right rules, or formula, children will quit fussing and be kind the rest of their lives. What about supposed Christians in your church who are quick to criticize? Your family arguments at Christmas? That friend you have loved, but there has been a break? The person at the driver's liscence bureau? Your neighbor? Your neighbor's dog? A Christian leader? Your siblings?

And what about the conflict you have with the children you love with all of your heart but for some reason or another,  drive you crazy--personality, disability, illness, too loud, too quiet? And then you condemn yourself for being a bad mom--cause if you really loved your children, you would always be patient, right?

I could write a whole book about what it looks like to love well, and quote scripture and give you insight to grow in maturity in relationships, because I have had to learn soooo much in this area--and I have learned so much through my failures.

But,  this article is about dealing with the reality--conflict is a normal part of life in a fallen world where everyone you meet is in need of Christ's grace. Everyone you meet, no matter how spiritual, will be tempted by selfishness, pettiness, sexual thoughts, greed, envy, insecurity, anger, and more.

However, I do have a few thoughts that have helped me go forward in regards to this whole mysterious issue of conflict management--especially amongst Christians, family and people you expected to get along with.

1. You will never be perfect. Accept your limitations in this fallen world. Jesus is never biting his nails over your imperfection, nor is He surprised by it. Scripture tells us that he did not trust himself to men because He knew what was in their hearts. John 2:24

He was discerning and used self-control even in relationships.

Consequently, He understood the fallen nature of our hearts and that all of us are prone to transgress in relationships.

If you live in constant condemnation for raising your voice, getting impatient, being petty, being tempted, and promise yourself you will never do it again, you will be in constant disappointment with yourself. (Paul tells us, "I don't really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don't do it. Instead, I do what I hate." Romans 7:15)

2. Be humble and recognize your frailty. Let your sin and immaturity lead your heart to gratefulness that Jesus died for you.

First, Jesus says, "God gives grace to the humble, but is opposed to the proud."

Jesus said, "I am humble and meek. Learn from me."

Humble people who can admit they are immature are more likely to give grace, kindness, compassion to others who also fail. And when they give love from a grateful heart to others, there is naturally more reconciliation and more harmony. We all sin, we all need to forgive, we will all do it again--but Hallelujah, we are all forgiven.

Romans 8:1 says, "There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus."

Let it lead you to celebrate His love, His goodness, His generosity. Get over yourself--you are just a person with feet of clay. He is mindful that we are but dust.

3. Be shrewd as serpents, innocent as doves.

Unfortunately, several in our family have had to learn this the hard way. Sometimes as Christians we think we are supposed to "be kind to all people, accept all people and give them grace no matter what." Yet, to be shrewd means to have deep insight, vast understanding, and Proverbs is full of admonitions not to companion ourselves to fools. We are called to accept all people as those receiving the grace of Christ, but we are not called to engage our hearts to those who are foolish, unwise, immature, or who would engage our hearts in constant conflict.

Learn to discern the character of people. Are they gracious? Do they seek to serve, encourage? Or are they competing to be the center of attention? Do they say, "You hurt my feelings," a lot? Do they react easily, get offended easily--then they do not have the strength of character or heart to be a loyal, devoted, unconditionally loving friend. Perhaps we are called to minister to such in our lives, but we are not called to entrust ourselves to them. Proverbs says, "He who walks with the wise will be wise, but a companion to fools suffers harm."

Many people have had such destructive backgrounds that they manipulate emotionally as a way of life. As we mature, we are called to love all people, to forgive those who have wronged us, but we cannot make immature, destructive, controlling or manipulative people behave in a mature way.

But we can be healthy and learn to mature, ourselves.

Remember, maturity is a process of growing stronger and more like Jesus one day at a time. It is not instant. Practice love and you will become more loving.

But, we do not have to carry the burden of someone else's  irrationality or criticism. Don't take it into your body, your stomach, give it to God and move on. We can live in grace, accept our limitations and reject the criticism of others. Then we can  walk in graciousness as we follow the One who defined "graciousness."

There are some people I waited most of my life to love me and affirm me--and they never did. But I learned to love them by faith and not give them power over how I felt about myself. I learned to lean into God's sweet love for me and love who He made me, warts and all--this made me free to love others more generously.

Some of these irrational relationships will be with us our whole lives because they are family members or connected to us for good. But we do not have to take on their accusations, neurosis, unjust condemnation. We are responsible for our own sense of well being. Don't compare with others, like who you are and accept the great love and freedom that comes from pleasing only One--and that is by faith in His ability to save you and help you grow.

There are some relationships that may never be healthy or whole--but you can be healthy and whole if you walk in Biblical patterns.

4. Beware of the Pharisees--those who pride themselves in knowing all the rules, thinking they are capable of keeping all the rules, and condemn all who are less than they are.

Beware of Gossips

When I notice that new friends criticize others a lot or gossip or are condescending towards others, I know that wisdom would teach me not to trust my heart to them. A gossip or critical person will gossip or criticize you behind your back. It has happened to me several times in my life and I have had to learn from failing rather than being wise as I faced new relationships.

And don't you be a pharisee by peer pressure--You can't please Jesus and condemn others and other groups as a habit. He who loved the prostitute, the tax collectors, the outcasts is the one who wants you to be just in your relationship to others.

Don't join the peer pressure of others to ostracize certain groups--if you want to please Jesus, sometimes you have to walk alone to do what is right.

Most of all, grow--grow in learning little by little how to love well, learn how to forgive, learn how to overcome, learn how to be at peace and learn how to walk in the grace and forgiveness He generously gives every day.

So much more to be said, but this year, give the difficult and destructive and hurtful relationships into the file drawers of heaven. Let God take them. Get rid of unnecessary guilt. Live in freedom. Biblically, own your relationships.

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De-Cluttering Your Soul for 2015 The Secret to Peace and Rest

My Home Town--Pikes Peak

Snow blew through our whole area today and it gave me some time at home to begin my yearly tradition of planning my priorities, commitments and goals for a new year. Each year I write about how God has led me to de-clutter my heart, mind and soul. I hope it will encourage you to do the same!

There is something uniquely good about January 1. It marks a new year, a new beginning, a new possibility. It also marks, for me, the reentry into simplicity. I don’t know if there is a more satisfying feeling for me during the year than when we put all of our Christmas things away, the decorations, the remnant of cookies, the clutter. We did that in my home, today. I have also been revisiting an article that I rework every January 1, as it is a pattern I seem to keep needing to learn.

Every year for the past few years, I have pondered and written about de-cluttering my soul. I hope you will be blessed by these thoughts. I am pulling away for a few days, once again, to see what needs to stay and what needs to be cut. I am sending Sarah off to Oxford tomorrow and Nathan back to Hollywood and then we will get back to normal. And so I am deliciously excited to take time alone to get back to my soul.

I love the celebration of life and the traditions and the fun and the beauty of special times spent with my children, husband and friends. But, there is something deeply satisfying to me about getting it all put away and getting back to normal.

Perhaps it is because my normal responsibilities of caring for my family’s needs demand so much of me—cooking nutritious meals, organizing our schedules, cleaning and organizing on a daily basis, homeschooling and add to that ministry—these are enough, but holidays put on that extra load. Routines go by the wayside and so the clutter and demolishing of the house, slowly takes over.

I am not a person gifted in handling details—too much mail, too many catalogues, too many emails, too many options, too many things. The more there is, the more I become responsible for, the more work there is to be done, and so, the more anxious I become. Same with activities. The more I commit to, the more I say yes, the more I have to drive, the more my house gets into a mess, and the more anxious I become, the more hurried we feel, and the more weary I become. When I am not at peace, nothing in our home is at peace.

We can all see how too much clutter and too many piles causes us to feel overwhelmed with life. Consequently, slowly, I have learned to declutter as often as I can—throw away unnecessary stuff. Clay is really the master at this. He helps me get rid of things, organize things and put away things. Yesterday, he decluttered our pantry—threw away chip bags that held little but took up space, cleared out empty water bottles, bad, junky Christmas candy that had been given to us, but would never eaten; baskets that had fallen off of their nails, groceries that had never been put in their place. Now, if someone came into my pantry, they would mistakenly think that I am an organized person. (Thank goodness for Clay!) It made me feel good just to open the door and to see that all was manageable again.

But, I have also come to realize that my brain and heart can be the same way---cluttered with worries, responsibilities, duties, children’s future, finances, time constraints, expectations, disappointments, critical attitudes, resentment. All of these added together, can tend to create soul piles and mind clutter. If I don’t take the time to sort the piles of mind clutter, my spirit becomes a mess and my heart becomes overwhelmed and weary.

It is what awakened me at 4:00 a.m. this morning-soul clutter and worry. It is another reason I like January. It gives me an opportunity to make a new plan, to simplify the mind messes and to start off a whole new year well. In the same way that throwing away stuff and clearing out closets brings me relief, even more, soul and mind cleaning and decluttering brings me rest.

So, as I begin a new year, and head into my conference season, a very busy time for our family, I resolve to deal with my soul-clutter, so that I may have strength to face each day in peace. I come to the place where I know I will find the help that I need. I come to my Father and ask Him to help me, His child, to show me how to make get rid of the junk that is unnecessary, and to help me clean out and organize my soul.

He speaks to me gently.

It was in writing my book, Dancing with My Father, that I have learned so much about finding joy--and peace. In Him, with Him, by Him all the moments of my busy day. His voice leads me to what I long for--but I must get rid of all that causes me to fret, worry, criticize, control. There is a way....

“In quietness and rest shall be your strength.” Isaiah 30:15 You need to come to me and give me all those things that are weighing on your heart. Resolve to seek rest and peace.

“Come to me all who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:28-29

I listed all of my issues this morning in my journal (and there seem to be multitudes of clutter piles in my soul--worries, attitudes, bitterness, weariness, fear, sin and a few more!) These are issues that will suck me dry and my energy dry if I do not notice them in order to clean out my soul!

The Lord prompted, "List all of your issues, give them over to me, don’t hold on to them. I am capable of taking them from you and being responsible so that you will not be weary or carry what you are not capable of carrying.

"Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him. “ Psalm 37:7

Focus on resting in me—sit in my lap, so to speak, rest in my arms. Let me carry you. I love you.. Wait for my timing. Don’t force things or beg me to hurry up. I am in control.

“Be still (cease striving) and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10 “Surely I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with his mother; Like a weaned child is my soul within me.” Psalm 131:2

Give me your attention and get control of your spirit. Be quiet. Be still. Recognize my sovereignty and transcendence. Remember what Jesus said, “Our Father who art in heaven, holy is your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” Jesus modeled his understanding that my will is what you need to rest in. I am in heaven and I see all things—the future, the past, your children, your relationships, --all your clutter. Give them to me. Quiet your soul and rest in my strength and power.

“Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever receives one little child like this receives me.” Matthew 18:3-5

Come to me as a child—even as your children, in their innocence and sweetness of heart, know that you will care for them and meet their needs because you are a loving parent who cares for them, so I am your Father who will take care of you. Leave the burdens to your father and take your rightful place as a child. Humble yourself and trust me. Enjoy me. Delight in the beautiful moments of this day. Notice the little miracles. Live as an unfettered child. Accept your little and big children and receive them as a gift from me, and your will indeed receive me into your midst.

“ ... a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.” I Peter 3:4

“Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about so many things. But really one is needed and Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her.” Luke 10 41-42

Don’t worry and fret and stew and stir up unnecessary dust. Choose simplicity—just one thing I require—that you give it all to me and love me. I will take over. Even as I gave and provided a Sabbath in which all of my children should have rest from their work, so I want you to live in my Sabbath rest for your soul. Rest from your striving and labor. Take time for naps, for pleasure, for joy. This day you have to receive as a gift--I can't promise what tomorrow will hold. But today you can love, give peace, speak kind and wise words, dance in your soul with my secret pleasure that comes from knowing that I love you.Simplify your life, don’t make choices that will complicate or add unnecessary pressure or cause you to sin or grumble. “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life,” as Paul said.

So, as I yielded my lists into God’s hands and de-cluttered my troubled soul, I left feeling that even as my house has been coming to order, after we cleaned and straightened it yesterday, now my soul is moving in the direction of order.

Rest, rest, rest—in quietness and rest will be your strength every day, every year, until you see me face to face. I love you, my sweet girl. Don’t forget that I am with you each moment of today. Your doting and loving Father.

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Happy Almost New Years & Inspiration for 2015!

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Sarah Mae, Crystal Paine, me and Angela Perritt

in my home, celebrating my new book!

Happy Almost New Years to my sweet friends!

I actually love having a new year with a fresh start. Christmas memories are tucked away until another year and now a brand new year is ahead. Rethinking my commitments, my ideals, my relationships, my walk with God, my health, so many priorities, gives me a way forward to have a great new year.

In the next two weeks, I will be launching my newest book. As a part of that, with the new year in mind, I am hosting an inspiring webcast with three of my dear friends, Sarah Mae, Crystal Paine, and Angela Perritt. We had so much fun working on ideas from this book in the past two years of my leadership intensives, and I asked them to share them with you next Tuesday evening, the day my book, Own Your Life, is officially released.

I hope you can join us and I know it will be a great way to have inspiration for the new year. Be sure to register so we can send you the information about how to connect to us the night of the launch. Hope you can come!

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This promises to be an uplifting, fun-filled hour of shared laughter and encouragement to help you and I know you will enjoy hearing the personal stories and a glimpse into the hearts of all of us as we share our own priorities, struggles and faith personally with you.

  • Make the most of the life God has given you
  • Move beyond barriers like guilt and chaos
  • Create and nurture loving supportive friendships
  • Refuel your life
  • Love well and enjoy the journey!
  • Learning to love who God has made you, leaving guilt and inadequacy behind
  • Living into the generous, abounding and unconditional love of God
  • Finding peace, rest and strength to live the life God has given you
  • Discovering the ministry moments God has designed for you to engage in every day
  • Finding contentment right where you are, single, married or somewhere in between
  • Building a home environment that gives life to all who come there
  • Becoming the friend and lover of all, that God created you to be
  • Embracing your ministry of parenting and learning how to do it with grace
  • Building a long term story of faithfulness in your marriage
  • Leaving a legacy of a strong faith, generous love, an intentional life

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So Thankful for Firemen! Especially in Monument

10891899_10204546731602675_5346521049036735723_nAfter Nathan and Rachael left for the airport today, I went to my little office to work and read. Clay came in and said, "What is that awful smell?" We eventually had such a burning smell all through our 3 floor home, (2 floors and a basement), that we were getting headaches. We left to go out for a few hours and when we came back the smell was so strong it began to make us all nauseous. We checked everything we could find! Clay said, "Maybe we should call the sherriff's department and see if there are any fires in our area.

The next moment, we looked out our front door and there were 3 fire trucks! After the wonderful men came in and looked over our house, smelling the same thing, they found a burned out lamp shade in Nathan's room that was fresh. (And they also found a short in our ceiling chandelier, too.)

We love our fire department and think they are the best!