Join me for our very first Momheart Podcast!

It's here! I am listening to all of your emails, messages and comments. I am just slow, as there is always so much on my plate, (Mom Conferences, blog posts, speaking engagements, leadership intensives, articles and of course, new books!) and it takes a while to get to everything. But I have to say I love ministry to sweet women and I so enjoy you in my audience who let me hear from you. It is a joyful work I get to do.

I hope that you will grab a cup of tea or a mug of coffee or something wonderful and just take a deep breath and join us for a time of friendship and sharing heart issues and fun together. Or if you are in the car or on an exercise machine, breathe in a moment just for you! We promise we will get better and hopefully more professional as we go, but it was so very much fun. We had such fun just taping the first one and getting excited about what will be ahead.

Kristen and I in New York City last year with her darling 4!

Kristen Kill is my dear friend for several years. We have worked together in my ministry for several years and she brilliantly said, "Sally, you can do this and I will help you!" Kristen lives in New York City with her 4 children, ranging from mid-teens to 7 years old--one boy and three girls. She writes a beautiful blog at Hopewithfeathers.com

Please let us know what you think! And give us some ideas of what you would like for us to discuss. I will be taping some personal messages once a week, (if I can get to it!) and Kristen and I will be speaking together once a week. Hope you can join us! I want to get to some Bible time for you, too, and hope to be sharing from some of what I am reading or have read over the years. Pray for us and for this ministry that it will reach sweet women all over the world, who need to know their lives matter.

We love all of you so--you brave, wonderful, idealistic, sacrificing women who are changing the world, one day at a time through your moments of faith and faithfulness!

You can play our podcast below by putting your curser on the triangle--(the start button for those who are new to this!) Hope you enjoy!

Confidence to Build Well Amidst the Storms of Life!

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My sweet girls who made it through the fear and doubt.

The small flame of the candle flickered wildly as air from the opening door fanned the flame. Sarah, my gentle oldest child peeked through the door and asked if we could talk for a few minutes. Her quiet voice told me she did not want to attract the attention of anyone else in the house.

I had come to my bedroom alone. A fire was lit in the fireplace, a cup of tea steamed at my side, and a melancholy Celtic tune played softly in the background--this the perfect setting I had planned for a short, one woman retreat, by myself on a few stolen minutes of a Sunday afternoon. But, I could see she needed to talk about something that was important to her.

The tears began to overflow her dark blue eyes as she sat down. The past year had been hard and lonely for her. We had moved to a new city and not a friend her age was to be found. Several of her Christian friends had been dabbling in sex with boys they were dating, Christian leaders we knew had split the church over an immoral relationship, leaving many broken relationships behind.

On top of this, our country had just experienced the terrorist attacks of 9/11 and Sarah had been forced to manage through the trauma of the week without Clay and me as we were gone for a brief 20th anniversary trip away. All of these issues plus the questions of what to do with the rest of her life combined to trouble her heart and mind.

"Mama, I have having such doubts in my faith. So many believers seem mediocre and compromising, and our world seems to be falling apart and it is hard for me to make sense of it all. Have you ever felt like this?"

Fast forward 12 years, and Joy quietly sneaked into my room getting ready to leave for Oxford amidst the first onslaught of ISIS and was fearful to get on the plane fearing being away from us if a crisis should befall England.

"Mama, the world seems to be such a scary place. How do I know I will be ok, you all will be ok, when I am so far from home if a crisis arises?"

Now, having lived through all the seasons of 4 children, from birth into adulthood, I can see the hand of God leading me faithfully through all the fear-filled times. God whispers secrets to us in His word about how to make it through in tact with our souls and spirits healthy and strong.

Certainly the world today, and 12 years ago, is a place threatening the peace of our personal lives every day. With crisis looming at every point: Planned Parenthood atrocities, needless shootings and killings of teens, the murder of Christians in the middle East, the refugee crisis and storms and disasters all about, we are inundated with threats every day.

Since I wrote the book, Own Your Life, I have received literally hundreds of letters from all parts of the world asking me questions about what it looks like to "Own Life" in such times. This fall, I will be starting a new podcast that will speak to mom's issues, but I also hope to be doing a series of articles one day a week that will include some discipleship podcasts from my living room to yours about issues covered in Own Your Life. I will be talking about how to make a reasonable personal life plan for building foundations that cannot be shaken, how to find rest amidst weariness, making a plan for a growing spiritual life, dealing with disappointment, taking faith steps towards ministry and leaving a godly legacy and more. I hope many of you will join me.

I will be covering chapters from Own Your Life. So be sure to get a copy if you want to follow along with me in your own quiet time, or get the study guide to study scripture related to the chapters and answer your own questions in journal pages provided.

I hope you will enjoy the podcasts as well as the articles. And look for a new series of podcasts with my wonderful friend, Kristen Kill, as we begin a new series together on issues of Motherhood.

Looking so forward to this series. Hope you and your friends will join me. If you want to read along with my commentary, be sure to get your own copy of Own Your Life--and the study guide. I hope it will be of great encouragement to you--and I have already been greatly inspired working on it!

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Choosing to Live by Grace, not Perfection

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...If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit." -Galatians 5:25

As godly mothers, we strive to make the best possible decisions, set the perfect boundaries, and have the correct rules that we believe will somehow cultivate "spiritual" children. However, we can't by sheer force or the right rules or the right devotional curriculum make our children spiritual.

That being said, there is a mysterious process by which the Holy Spirit leads our children to see their need for Christ as we seek to cultivate their hearts. But it is entirely led by grace, informed by love, and carried out by the help of the Holy Spirit.

We are putting so much pressure on ourselves as mothers. Each time we find ourselves too busy to cook (so we opt for fast food), too exhausted to clean, or so hectic in our lives that we didn't do a devotional with our children one week, we feel absolutely defeated and believe that we somehow failed our children.

Often, I receive comments or letters from mamas who say, "How did you seek joy? How did you manage to live by faith?" And then they will tell me the very difficult circumstances or exhaustion or loss of job or marriage problem.....

The grace of God is given in spite of our circumstances, his peace comes when our difficulties would suggest otherwise. When we cast our burdens on God because we cannot handle them or when we choose to exercise joy because we know,"in His presence is fullness of joy," or when with our inadequacies in all areas are filled in by the invisible grace of His own doing, we always have hope and reason to be at peace.

While it is incredibly wonderful to set our standards high and live within these great ideals,

We must hold ourselves to a standard of grace, not perfection.

We won't be able to have grace for our children if we do not have grace ourselves.

Galatians 5:1 tells us that,

"It was for freedom that Christ set us free, therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery."

Are there any ways in your life as a mom that you are trying to live up to the false expectations of others?

In my home, we did our best, but our best was certainly not perfection. We just had committed hearts toward our kids and the desire to shape their souls to respond passionately to their Creator. He came with grace and truth to bring life and wholeness into our hearts. We strive to follow His example in the lives of our children. We are not guided by culture, or what other moms feel is the "right way", but we are led by God. We walk in the power of the Holy Spirit and rest in His grace.

Let's Have an Evening just to chat! "Own Your Life" Webinar Now Available!

This year marks the 20 year of Mom's conferences that Clay and I have hosted all over the world. It will probably be our last year of this conference, so I hope many of you can come. But the biggest request I have had, by far, through the years, is, "Sally, please, please do a conference in my area!"

With all the work we do, writing books, blog posts, traveling and speaking and keeping my family centered, I am just limited and slow at getting to all the things I want to do. So traveling more is impossible, But the past year, we have been listening to you. We have attempted and are getting better each time, at bringing you some of the great messages of our books and conferences right into your home.

I have had many requests to put all of these courses in one place so people can have a look at the different webcasts we have held. I hope this will allow many of you to have these videos at your leisure in your own home. I am working on getting podcasts going--after I unpack my suitcases, take care of my company who is staying at my house, caring for my family......Well, it will come, but here are the webcasts now!

After enjoying a wonderful evening of discussion with many of you, sharing vital tenets from my book Own Your Life, and launching a new Own Your Life Study Guide, I am thrilled to say that the video of that event is now available for purchase! Buy it by clicking here.

If you would like to purchase the Study Guide, to help plan how to bring order to your year, you can get that by clicking here.

I have so loved spending evenings talking, praying, and answering questions, from my living room to yours! It is always fun to watch the chat boxes fly by. I have hosted a number of events over the past couple of years, and now you can purchase them all, by reading through below. I hope these serve as a valuable resource for you and your family!

Own Your Life - Newly Released!

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Own Your Life has inspired thousands of readers around the world with Sally Clarkson’s personal encouragement to live courageously, have great faith, and become a person of influence. Sally wants to help each person to discover the fullness of God’s design for their life. Use this seminar and planner to give you inspiration as you plan your year ahead, no matter which season in which you find yourself.

Do you long for fresh inspiration to renew your vision for life? Does your heart yearn to do something meaningful for God? Does your spirit desire to grow closer and go deeper with the Lord?

Be inspired about learning to live life on purpose, with excitement about how meaningful each day can be. A renewed life is within your reach, but you will need to make a plan to create the legacy of faith you envision. This webinar will help you begin that journey of faith and planning. As you walk with Sally through inspiring stories from her life, and interact with the Bible passages she provides, you will find new direction from the Holy Spirit for living a flourishing life. Start here to refresh your faith and renew the biblical ideals God has put in your heart.

Home-Centered Learning, Part 1

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This webinar is all about getting to the root of what makes up a vibrant, life-giving home; over the course of an hour and a half, I uncover some of the secrets I have discovered in my own home journey, about how to create a home where children are inspired toward excellence, learn to love knowledge, and gain a profound understanding of the God that guides and sustains them. Over the course of an hour and a half, I give practical foundations upon which to build a life for your family in the home, including:

• How to help each child learn at their own unique pace, and in their own unique way.
• How to create meaningful real-life experiences that enrich the lives of your children.
• How to deeply love your children and find patience in the ups and downs of life at home.
• How to draw your children into a love of Christ through discipleship.
• And much more!

Take the first step on a journey of enriching your home, by stepping into my home, and letting me share my heart with you!

Home-Centered Learning, Part 2

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Building on the foundation established in Home-Centered Learning, Part 1, this follow-up webinar fills out that structure with many more intricate details of an enriching life at home, in two rewarding sessions. In the first session, I outline 7 Mental Muscles that will become powerful tools for your children as they develop a love of learning. These include:

• Life and Character Habits
• Creativity in Imagination
• Wisdom and Discernment
• And more!

In the second hour, my daughter Sarah, an author of multiple books on the power of literature to transform the minds of your children, discusses how to instill within your children a love of books, and how those stories will engender bravery, justice, love of goodness, and other characteristics of a great individual in the hearts of each of your children.

Together with Home-Centered Learning, Part 1, I share all my best methods of crafting your home environment into something truly transcendent and transformative. Don’t miss these valuable e-conferences!

Ten Gifts of Wisdom

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In this two-part webinar, I share about what I have learned are the vital things that every child must learn before they leave home. Gain understanding in how to plant timeless virtues deep in the heart of your children, so that they will blossom as they grow into adulthood. These gifts include:

Character - The Gift of Loving Virtue

Gratitude - The Gift of Generous Thanks

Work - The Gift of Purposeful Industry

And other invaluable lessons!

As a bonus, everyone who purchases this webinar will receive access to ten free posters of each gift, which they can print out and use as reference to the material in this webinar! Even more, there is a bonus “gift” topic included besides the 10 gifts listed in the book: The Gift of A Story-Formed Life! Learn how to kickstart a love for reading in your children. Truly one of my favorite webinar experiences, I hope you are deeply blessed by this e-conference as well.

Motherhood for Life

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What does it mean to live into the call of motherhood? God has raised us up as amazing leaders to do a beautiful, lasting work in the world, by living fully into our calling as mothers. But what does this look like on a day to day basis? How do we run the race with endurance? Drawing from my 30 years as a mother, I outline how to equip yourself for battle, and how to achieve success in every moment of life. These concepts include:

Owning Your Heritage: Defining Your Role as a Woman

Fulfilling Your Purpose: Cultivating and Bringing Life to Your World

Building Your Family Legacy: Training in Righteousness

And an additional eight other topics!

Motherhood requires our whole lives, and having lived it with faithfulness for many years now, I want to help you do the same. Please join me on this webinar journey!

Love in Real Life

So many times, I remember sharing scripture with my whole heart and wondering if ANYONE was paying attention. And yet, now, there are times I feel like I am on holy ground as I see the amazing thoughts that come from deep within the souls of my children. I was greatly encouraged when I read this today and hope that you will be inspired to love your sweet ones, your family, your husband well, one more day. And know that they are listening.

“Love” is a word that has inundated itself within the vocabulary of our generation weaving itself in and out of the public and private conversation being wielded as a rally cry for movements, and a trump card for arguments.

“Love” is something we say when we feel so strongly about something, when we don’t know how else to describe it.

“Love” it is the word in which we wrap up our deepest emotions, in hoping to convey the depth of our commitment to the ones we share our lives with.

But even in the midst of of the never ending barrage of a culture obsessed with the use of the word “love”, I somehow find myself confused as to what it actually means.

What actually is love? What does love look like lived out and acted on? What does it truly mean to love someone?

I so desperately want to know, because daily I find myself looking at humanity completely confused at a generation who says it “loves life” but then terminates the lives that come at inopportune times.

Or cries, “love everyone” from the top of their lungs, and then goes on to hate the person next to them when they believe something different.

Or when two people vow in front of God to love each other forever, committing to remain faithful “for better or worse” but then leave when the feelings have gone.

If I didn’t know better, I would assume that this word -that many say includes unconditional commitment, sacrifice, and dedication- would seem is only real when it’s convenient, fun, easy, and makes us feel good.

And if this is true, I think that “love” is something I no longer want any part of.

I always hoped and believed that love was more than just a nice sentiment or pretty adjective, but instead was something stronger than any human emotion, something that pulled us through our weakness even when our strength was failing and our feelings waning. 

I always wanted believe that love was bigger than us, and wasn’t bound by the brokenness to deeply imprinted within us.

But as we look at humanity it’s clear that on our own, our love fails. So what hope do we have?

Could it be, that our hope must lie beyond our selves, beyond the mistakes we are bound to make, and the weakness we are fated to live with. Our hope for love must lay is something less mortal than our failing and dying bodies and wills, and stronger than the darkness in our hearts.

Is it possible that our hope for true love lays beyond anything we have to offer, and its true definition is found only in the designer of love itself.

Could it be that love cannot survive in our natural and broken mortality, but is instead to endure it must be found in the eternal hands of a timeless and perfect creator, who first demonstrated what true love is.

I don’t know... But if there is a definition of what true “Love” really is, one that calls out to us offering us a choice to take part in what pure, eternal love really actually looks like, a love that outlasts our failings, and offers us healing for our broken hearts. A definition of love that could gives us strength to remain faithful even in our human relationships should we choose it, it might look something like this...

“Love never gives up.

Love cares more for others than for self.

Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

Love doesn’t strut,

Doesn’t have a swelled head,

Doesn’t force itself on others,

Isn’t always “me first,”

Doesn’t fly off the handle,

Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,

Doesn’t revel when others grovel,

Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,

Puts up with anything,

Trusts God always,

Always looks for the best,

Never looks back,

But keeps going to the end.”

Because of our brokenness and the fallen world in which we live, as long as we are here we will never be able to love perfectly. But, because of the grace of our creator we have a chance to enter in a new definition of love that I believe has to ability to change our lives, and even the world.

Though, this definition of love is not a feeling, or an emotion, but a choice we must make. Will you make the choice to make this eternal, pure, and true definition of love your love?

By Nathan John Clarkson--

Originally posted on nathanjohnclarkson.com

Keeping an innocent heart: Learning to refresh along the way. Home at last.

Why don't the mountains make me cry no more?

They don't sing the way they did before
They're just piles of stone as dead as bones
Like corpses on a field of war
And they just don't make me cry no more.

Andrew Peterson

(a favorite singer/songwriter of our family)

The Last Frontier

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Tonight, after 23 hours of traveling, Clay picked up Joy and me at the Denver airport. Celtic music wafting out of the speakers, we turned towards the mountains as we entered the freeway and the stunning golden lining the horizon with the backdrop of stormy purple clouds made us wonder why we ever leave our beloved Colorado. The music and sky were a symphony to beauty.

It brought to mind these thoughts I shared another time when looking up to my beloved Rockies. Off to sleep now but oh so glad to be home.

Music is the poetry of our generation, the voice of our fears, thoughts, emotions, giving reality to what we store in our hearts. And so, this song reflected my own, and Joy's,  heart's words. And so slowly we are taking some time to come back to life.

Sitting on the front porch, sipping tea in the late afternoon caught Joy and me creaking slowly in our white rocking chairs and trying to breathe in life. "Mama, I was so tired and worn to the bone when I came home from school this year, that I couldn't even feel how pretty everything was any more. It was like I was in a fog."

Remember when, as a little girl, you would see a shooting star or sit by the firelight of a bonfire and roast marshmallows or catch lightening bugs in the early dark of a summer's night and all was delight to your soul. Just being alive was exciting and every day had the possibility of something wonderful?

Taking the temperature of our souls is essential to staying alive. I have felt so crowded in my life that I have hardly had room to breathe. Sometimes I know that the sunrise is beautiful, but my heart doesn't sing when I see it anymore. This is the moment I say, "No matter what, I will take time for rest for my soul, time alone, time away from machines, time for music and sleeping, and not answering the phone. Time for walks and lots of hot drinks, or a hot bath, or a moonlit walk under the stars...

I have gathered delights that help me restore my own heart to wonder because I want to appropriately be childlike before Him to marvel, to breathe, to be amazed.

What helps you restore? What brings you back to your old true self? Keep stock of your heart now, so that you may stay alive to God.

"Guard your heart, for from it flow the springs of life." Proverbs 4:23

Telling the Truth Begins With Knowing the One Who is Truth (24 Family Ways #24)

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We always tell the truth and do not practice deceitfulness of any kind.

Memory Verse:

Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good days, keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.- Psalm 34: 12-13

Teaching is taking responsibility for informing the mind, heart and thoughts of my student. When I seek to present truth, knowledge, wisdom--the best thoughts, the most soul-gripping ideals, the foundations of truth and insights of understanding, it forces my own soul to broaden in the preparation of my presentation. Often I find the Life of His words open to my soul as I seek to dig for the best in my presentations. A serious responsibility to seek in some small way to reflect the truth about my creator--an auspicious task. Yet in the pursuit of His reality, my own soul becomes more real.

Truth telling is a matter of integrity, rooted in the heart of every believer. We must train our children to tell the truth about small details, but to understand the difference between what is true and what is deceitful, to have their souls transformed by the righteousness of God, they must know the One who IS truth and pattern their lives after him alone. This is our last of the 24 Family Ways, but it also touches the core of everything we have studied together this summer. What is the most true in your heart? For out of the overflow of your heart, the mouth speaks.

When I decided to teach Joy the attributes of God, I thought if she could grasp even a little of what He is like, then as she forayed out into the world, the understanding of His character and integrity and personal commitment to her would serve her in the days she is tempted to feel alone.

I remember sharing with her, "Man's spiritual history will positively demonstrate that no religion has ever been greater than its idea of God. Worship is pure or base as the worshipper entertains high or low thoughts of God. What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us." Tozer

So we began with the humility of Christ. I have pondered this summer, "I am humble of heart." What does it mean? He told me to learn this from HIm--not humble in dress, or position or in works--but in heart. And so we began by looking the word up on a dictionary. Humble--modest or unpretentious in one's estimation of oneself in relationship to others.

So Jesus was modest in his estimation of himself in relationship to others. Didn't need to brag, to have the last word, to convince others he was right, to criticize others--but was unpretentious in His relationship to them.

Already, my own heart was being convicted. Yet, it was in the context of looking at Satan's fall, that His humility shown forth like a brilliant light. Ezekiel 28: 12-16 tells us that God created Satan (Lucifer) as one of the highest angels in heaven. He was crafted in beauty--clothed in precious jewels--ruby, topaz, diamond, emerald and defined in the gold settings. His beauty and splendor were magnificent. God created him blameless (Ez. 28: 15). And yet, "Your heart was lifted up because of your beauty." It was as Satan looked at himself, and became proud--exalted in confidence at his own glory, that he lifted himself above God. His pride of his exalted esteem of himself became the ground in which sin would grow.

Satan said in his heart (in contrast to the heart of Jesus), "I will ascend to heaven; I will raise my throne above the stars of God.... I will make myself like the Most High God." (Isaiah 14:14)

And so it was his pride in himself--I will be like the most high  (pretentious--impossible that the creature could ever, ever be equal to his creator)--It was his arrogance that said he would not bow his knee to his creator--he would have the power, the worship, the centerpiece of the life of all people, that all corruption and sin and wickedness gave birth. His grasp for power, allegiance--at any cost. He would win the war of capturing the hearts of those created in God's image, for himself. Pride is the starting point for sin to grow and flourish.

In this light, when the One true God, the creator of the world, the all powerful, omniscient God, comes to the earth, with no stately form or majesty, as a man of sorrows acquainted with grief; as a humble, poor carpenter, --it gives new meaning to the value of "I am humble of heart."

Exactly in contrast to Satan who would exalt himself above all people--at any cost to crushing and killing the souls of all people in order that God would not have allegiance of his own, Jesus comes to bow His knee before the Father and willingly lays down his life for all--even the very lowly, to serve, wash their feet, heal their diseases, forgive their worst deeds.

So, for me,  all pride and exalting of myself makes me less like Jesus. All "I am better than you" thoughts because of anything I have done or accomplished--takes me more in the direction of Satan's attitude than that of Jesus. If Jesus, "did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but humbled himself by becoming obedient, even to the point of death," (Philipians 2: 6-8), then His humility of heart becomes my standard.

Jesus who touched lepers, spoke with and forgave prostitutes, ate with tax-collectors, rubbed shoulders with sinners and felt compassion for them, then if I want to be like Him, I must take the same posture. Repenting of pride, humbling myself--seeing myself as modest in my own estimation--serving all people that Christ may be exalted in my life--a life-changing lesson. Indeed in my pursuit of the best to offer my student, Joy, the very windows of heaven were opened up to my soul.

But, then, came the realization that my daughter would not believe the words I taught unless I modeled them to her--humbly serving all in my home, accepting the limitations of all in my life as Jesus did; becoming more of a servant leader--seeking to wash the feet of those He brings my way--only in this will my student believe that I believe the words of my exalted Teacher, "I am meek and humble of heart. Learn from me."

And so in the preparation and teaching of truth, I am discipled by the One who is true and I am hopefully changed forever.

Raising Self Governed Children (Our 24 Family Ways #23)

Way #23

We exercise self-control at all times and in every kind of situation.

Memory Verse: 

"A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control." -Proverbs 29:11

 A sweet mom recently came over for tea and said she felt like pulling her hair out.  (Don't we all at times.)

When she described her situation, I understood that she was afraid to train or discipline her children at all for fear they would not like her, so she rarely made them respond to her.

Often we as moms allow permissive behavior in parenting calling it grace.  Yet, children who are not directed or taught to practice becoming stronger little by little, ruling over their impulses are unhappy and frustrated with themselves much of the time. Getting their own way all the time does not satisfy a child's longing for security and self- control..

Later, I described the situation to my older children, and asked them what they thought we had done differently that had prevented them from behaving quite so crazily as these littles. It was humorous to hear how opinionated they were, as each reminded me how intentionally we taught them to be patient and to wait their turn–because they all remembered it the same way. We were (and are!) strong believers in a concept I call self-government–probably a Victorian character quality that I read about along the way in a book about the principle approach to life.

Self-government is defined this way: a person learns to command himself, his impulses, his work habits, emotions, intellect, and talents, and to rule over his will in a productive way. Children can begin this at a very early age, and I have found it to also be of utmost importance to adults–as one cannot be a mature believer unless one has mastered self-government, self-control and patience--or is at least growing in that direction.

The idea behind self-government is that all of us have power and authority over our own lives. This power comes from within, and can help us master problems, surmount obstacles, and use our self-will to achieve great things. Self-government doesn’t mean working out life in the flesh without the power of God, but affirms that we have a moral character that can be strengthened by our will, through practice. The person who has cultivated this kind of strong character is useful and productive in every area of life.

This quality helps a believer exercise faith, courage, and perseverance in the midst of trials. It is what helps a pianist to practice long hours, an athlete to exercise rigorously in order to become a champion, a missionary to master a language and remain faithful in a foreign country until there is a multiplying ministry, a wife to bear up with grace when married to an immature husband, a mother to continue over and over to practice patience with a sick or rebellious child–the unseen power of governing life by mature, faith-based choices as opposed to temporary, self-centered feelings.

Self-governing isn’t the natural default of a child’s behavior, of course. We taught it to our children intentionally. We can see the biblical principle for self-government in this passage from Deuteronomy: “I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, the blessing and the curse. So choose life in order that you may live, you and your descendants.” (Deuteronomy 30:19)

God tells the Israelites to obey Him, and if they do, they will be blessed. If they don’t obey, they will be cursed–there were consequences to their decisions. In life all choices have consequences. Our children need to understand that they will reap what they sow.

I used to say to my children over and over again, “Daddy and I cannot make you into great people. You have the power to determine how strong you become by how you exercise your will. We can train you and teach you how to be good and how to be righteous, but you have to decide to obey, and you have to decide that you want to become a person of godly character. God made you such a wonderful child, so I hope you will decide to do your best to become all that you can be. It is in your hands. It is yours to decide to respond, but I am praying and hoping that you will.”

When we appeal to our children’s hearts for excellence and choices of good behavior, then we are giving them the will and desire to be excellent for themselves. Their desire comes from within and their motivation is from the heart. But if we train them behaviorally by always forcing them to do what we want them to do because they might get a spanking or some other kind of threatened discipline, their motivation is to avoid spanking or harshness, not to please God or to please their parents by having a good heart and responding in obedience.

My desire as a mom is that my children would internalize all the precepts we have taught them over the years. I want them to love God and obey Him because they earnestly love Him and desire to please Him. This foundation will carry them throughout all the decision-making processes they will face for the rest of their lives.

If you have the desire to go deeper today, feel free to complete the reflection and application below:

• "I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, the blessing and the curse. So choose life in order that you may live, you and your descendants.” Deuteronomy 30:19 It’s our job as mamas to set before our children life and death—and to encourage them to choose life! What are you doing to draw your children toward life?

• “Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a man who has no control over his spirit.” Proverbs 25:28 What a frightening picture this was at the time this scripture was written! A city without walls had no protection; no vantage point to watch for enemies; no means of defense. And so we are, when we have no self-control. Is self-control an area in your own life that could use some work? How can you build your own “city walls”?

• Do you tend to try to motivate your children’s choices through behavioral training, or through reaching their hearts? How can you change the way you instinctively respond to your children? Spend time in prayer asking the Lord’s help in this area.

10 Gifts of Wisdom came out of my desire to define areas for moms that will prepare their children to flourish in the world. Without training, a child flounders and searches how to live life well. So many young adults I know have never had the kind of training that lends strength and vision and confidence in character and so they are subject to each whim or opinion that comes out on the internet.

Education of morals, habits, character and faith determine the foundations upon which a life will be built. Strong foundations lend themselves to vast structures. Make a plan today about how you will build those foundations into your own life and that of your children!

We are almost done with our Summer Study of Our 24 Family Ways! I'm so glad you have joined me. See the entire series by clicking the image below.

Teaching our Children to Follow God Begins By Giving Them an Example to Follow Along the Path of Life (24 Family Ways #22)

24 Family Ways #22

We ask before we act when we do not know what is right to do.

Memory Verse:

He who walks with the wise is wise. A companion of fools suffers harm. 

Proverbs 15:20

"By walking in integrity at home, my children received from my life, training for battles that were ahead of them. By walking through the obstacles and curves of our lives, trusting God, living by faith, choosing to endure, our children became familiar with what it looked like to walk with God in the midst of their own challenges." -Sally Clarkson, The Mom Walk

When your children walk with you, are they walking with a wise person?  Can they look at your seasoned responses, your insightful understanding of people, your fortitude in difficult times as they walk the moments of your daily life? Children watch us, listen to us when we are talking to others, hear us behind closed doors as we talk to our husband, see us in public. Our lives are the walk that our children will imitate.

When your children are not sure which way to do, how to respond, or  what is right or wrong, do they come to you for guidance? Do they know that you are the one to ask for wisdom in difficult moments?

We are in a generation and culture that has turned our children's training grounds into a battlefield. With relative morality, confusing voices, compromise of ideals, secular media values and opposing opinions, where will our children find clarity and strong, secure values to embrace?

As mothers, we must be ready and equipped with steady feet and strong souls to lead the way for our kids with integrity. We will give them confidence as we walk, staying close to them, holding their hand, and showing them sure footsteps to follow.

"O Lord, who may abide in Your tent? Who may dwell on Your holy hill? He who walks with integrity, and works righteousness, and speaks the truth in his heart." -Psalm 15:1-2

No matter how old your children become, you are the example for them. They will always be looking at you to see integrity, ideals, and how you interact with God. And the longer you provide your children with wisdom based on truth, the more they will quickly consider your advice as they walk their own adult journey. Still, on a daily basis, I am walking with my adult children. They learned to trust their "path guide" on the trail of life we walked together, day by day.

We must lead the way and set a solid foundation for the paths our children will follow. Teaching our children to walk truly never ends.

Are you walking in wisdom today? Is your life one you want your children to follow? Is your pathway in your life with God getting brighter and brighter? May God lead us on His path with integrity in each step.

What are some of the ways you make each day a focussed moment of a loving relationship as you walk the days with your children?

But the path of the righteous is like the light of dawn, That shines brighter and brighter until the full day

Proverbs 4: 18

Why Does Motherhood matter? Because babies Matter for Eternity!

 

Training leaders in my home in June to start small groups, retreats, Bible studies to teach women Biblical foundations of motherhood, marriage, discipleship.

Dark-blue eyes the color of blueberries, stared up intensely in the direction of my voice. Two matching bruises on her forehead, gave a battered look to her tiny face, with dripping dark strands of hair and pearl-white skin framing her face. At that moment, I was star-struck with my little new born, first child, Sarah.

At almost 31, never having changed a diaper, never knowing a mom who had nursed her children, and not even knowing how to hold her, I was not expecting the overwhelming love and reverence that would fill my heart the moment she arrived and was gently placed into my arms.

For a moment, I had her alone, and quiet filled the room. As I was holding her gingerly so as not to harm her, it was as if God was whispering to me:

“You are holding eternity in your arms. This little one is a miracle gift from me. Will you cherish her and love her so that when she grows up, she will believe that I love her? Will you be responsible to shape and fill her mind with the best stories so she will always believe in heroes? Will you whisper to her the secrets of my ways, teach her what is true, give her a place to grow strong and a sanctuary for life in which to celebrate all that is good in life so that she will fill the treasure-chest of her soul with all that is good, true and beautiful?”

Truly, for me, it was a defining moment. In one brief twinkling of time, totally startling thoughts to me, the imagination of what a home could be was wrapped in this little 7 pound gift. I would be the conductor of the life that shaped the potential locked in the heart, soul and mind of this little one. I began to understand that I would be a conductor of life for this little one born dependent on my guidance, love and direction of her life."

A Ministry to Mothers

The conviction about the strategic role of motherhood grew into a passion and call on my life over the years.  Since I became a mother, I have studied the Bible about the issues of motherhood and had written 12 books, many of which underline the profound importance of motherhood. By God's grace, this is the 20th year Clay and I will be hosting a Mom Heart Conference: a place to encourage, instruct and inspire moms to embrace their calls of motherhood to build godly generations.

We launched a small group ministry to encourage Moms to start groups of encouragement to others in their area to be sure mamas everywhere are having the opportunity to be inspired in their roles to raise godly generations.

We will be relaunching a new Mom Heart Website that will give more articles, training, ideas, and videos to encourage moms in their roles and in their groups.

The Core Message

Mothers are the civilizers of nations because they civilize, train and inspire their children  to love God, to have a heart that values righteousness, they model serving Christ in front of them every day. Through this amazing work, children become adults who serve God actively and who bring His kingdom to bear.

When a culture has lost the imagination of the importance of motherhood, and has forgotten that a baby is God's best work of art and creativity, making an eternal human being in His Image, then a culture can adopt devastating practices that we have all witnessed in planned parenthood.

What a person believes and cherishes in their hearts determines what a person does and how they behave in life..

A Call To Engage, to be Involved

What are you doing, planning, that will change your world for God's glory?  How are you planning to bring His light to bear? This is not a time for passivity or excuses, this is your time to live a story of faith for God by reaching out and seeking to help others know Him, love Him and serve Him.

How Am I Going to Own My Life and Ministry the next year as I seek God? 

**The next couple of weeks, I will be out of pocket because I will be in Europe meeting with leaders to discuss how I might do a Mom's conference, a leadership intensive to train others in ministry, and a homeschooling conference for missionaries and women there who lack support. Please pray that God will open doors and allow us to minister to thousands of moms to have a vision of motherhood. I hope to either host more leadership seminars in my home, and in other countries, or video tape my leadership conferences to send all over the world. (We just taped our messages in June and will be making those available.)

**We are planning to put up a page in Spanish on my blog and are in the process of translating a couple of books in Spanish to inspire and encourage those in the Spanish speaking world.

**I have written a new book that gives vision and purpose of home that I hope will inspire women all over the world with the vision of how they can use their homes to be sanctuaries of all that is holy to cultivate all in their homes to be followers of Christ.

**A friend and I also plan to do weekly podcasts speaking of issues that might encourage women. Pray we can get this up and going. It's coming soon, when I return!

Join me and hundreds if other Women!

I hope you will not tire of seeing my posts about Own Your Life. I hope you will bear with me one more time. I have received so many letters asking for further help and inspiration and so I decided to do my own blog, podcast and series to refresh and encourage you, my friends in ministry using these tools.

But this fall, I will be doing a series using my book Own Your Life, and the planner, with podcasts and stories to help inspire women to think more strategically about their own lives in light of how God might use them in this world to bring His light and love right where they are. I hope you will join me.

You may buy these books as a resource to my Monday and Friday sessions this fall to help you plan how to Own Your LIfe, Own your Fall, Own  your ministry, Own your family! :)

So, pray for my safety on this trip. Please pray for good health. Pray for Joy who will be with me. Pray for God to keep opening doors for us to encourage and inspire women all over the world. Pray for our leadership meetings with women where I will be visiting. I will be back in a couple of weeks. God be lifted up in your life and in mine!

Many of you know that we, our family, Clay and me, have a ministry that develops all of these materials and conferences and outreaches. If God ever puts it on your heart to become partners with us in our projects, you may donate it HERE. It is because of our many friends and supporters that we have been able to pursue our projects for the last 20 years. Thanks to all of you who have been a part.