Refresh, Relax, Restore: Life is a Marathon & podcast

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Sometimes a girl just has to take care of herself. Sometimes, a girl just needs a break from the mundane responsibilities of life. Sugar cookies have been a guilty pleasure of mine since I was a little girl. (Maybe it was the Christmas cookies with all that frosting.

But I ate these wonderful cookies and didn’t feel a bit of guilt.

No matter how hard we try, none of us is able to control all of the circumstances and moments of our lives.

And we are all human beings—fragile—and limited. We need to take time to refresh, relax and restore. From time to time, when my four were much younger, and I had pushed them to their limits during the day without a nap, too much activity, beyond their bedtime, too much sugar, and sometimes with lots of over-stimulation, bedtime would be impossible. Out of utter fatigue, they would wail and cry, throw little fits and not give into sleep until their bodies finally capitulated to utter exhaustion. Their reaction was equal to the level of exhaustion and abuse their bodies had taken.

I realized that there was nothing to do except let them cry and fuss until they finally fell deep into sleep. They didn't need to be disciplined--they needed to be loved and rested. Only when they caught up on their rest and their metabolism went back to a normal blood sugar level over a couple of days, were they less agitated.

Mamas do the same thing, at times. When living without enough sleep, and eating too much junk food, with work and taking care of others--who are often immature, irritating and draining, wrapping presents, cooking, life takes them to utter exhaustion, they are prone to fits expressed in different ways.

We cry, too--but in a more adult way. By being grumpy, irrationally angry, irritated or tearful at the smallest circumstances, our bodies rebel at exhaustion and show us that we have abused them.

Our hearts will not have peace until our bodies have had rest.

You matter, you are worth it, You need to take care of yourself.

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Servant Leadership and Labor Day ... in the Real Sense of the Word!

Now before the Feast of the Passover, Jesus knowing that His hour had come that He would depart out of this world to the Father, having loved His own who were in the world, He loved them to the end. During supper, the devil having already put into the heart of Judas Iscariot, the son of Simon, to betray Him, Jesus,knowing that the Father had given all things into His hands, and that He had come forth from God and was going back to God, got up from supper, and laid aside His garments; and taking a towel, He girded Himself.

Then He poured water into the basin, and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel with which He was girded." ~John 13:1-5

Baking homemade bread over many years is a gift I give to my family. So often, we desire to make a big impact, a gallant sacrifice that will be noticed. Yet, most moments that change a heart, open the eyes of the heart, give grace come in unnoticed, quiet gifts of sacrifice and serving.

Though Labor Day is a holiday and a break from work for many, plenty of mamas around the United States spend the Labor Day “holiday” much like any other--cooking meals, cleaning up messes, wiping faces, washing laundry. Sometimes it seems a holiday only guarantees there will be more work when the party is over! And yet what a gift it is, every time we are given the opportunity to have a few extra hours to gather with friends and relax with family. As my children are off to their own adult lives once again after some summer time at home with us, I know more than ever how precious those hours are.

In order for anyone to enjoy life at all, someone has to do some work!

How could we enjoy a fun picnic if no one packed it? And lets' not imagine the way our children's bedrooms would look were all the moms to cease their labor!

Daily, my ponder is Jesus. He shows me over and over again as we read of the way He interacted with His disciples that these little things ... these unending, sometimes tiresome tasks moms face day after day ... can become holy actions as we offer them to Him. Every time we serve our children, we invest in them, building bridges from our hearts to theirs, helping their souls understand the love and grace of God.

"Jesus spent His last night on earth with His disciples in service to them. How powerful their memories of that night must have been--the King of the whole universe touching and rubbing their dusty feet and gently drying them with a towel. Their Lord and Master breaking the loaf of bread and serving each of them for the celebrated feast of the Passover.

Jesus' example of servant leadership sets Him apart from so many historical religious leaders. He was not a God who lorded it over His followers and demanded they follow Him or coerced their obedience through authoritarianism and fear. Instead, He called them to the excellence of holiness and yet lovingly served them in order to win their hearts and show them the means of reaching others' hearts as well.

As I look to the hearts of my own children, even as adults, and seek to teach them about the grace of God, I realize my love and service to them must come before any of my great words, my teaching and training. My time--staying up late at night for conversations, watching movies and discussing them, my attention, my "soft-tickling", laying in bed with my sweet ones, listening to their hearts when I would rather be in bed--even when I am tired or have other "important" things on my mind--is what builds our relationship and prepares them to listen to what I have to say. Only then, once the wells of their need are filled with the grace of being loved, will my words to them about God's grace finally make sense."                               ~ from The Ministry of Motherhood

I want my children to understand God's goodness and love. And while demonstrating patience and service to them isn't always easy, it is always my privilege. It was the walking on dusty pathways, one step at a time, in which the conversations and friendship transformed the lives of Jesus’ friends..forever. May we see each step as holy.

Even on a holiday!

How about you? What kind of weekend did you have?

The Ministry of Motherhood: Following Christ's Example in Reaching the Hearts of Our Children

By Clarkson, Sally

Awaking Wonder: Giving The Gift of Faith & Cookies!

Wonderful news! A generous friend, (an artist with baking and a commercial baker) wrote to me and offered to give away 2 sets of 6 cookies to someone in my arena. Yumm! I have tasted these wondrous cookies! Such a fun giveaway.

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Do you have a generous, compassionate heart?

“When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them because they were confused and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Matthew 9:36

Gentle mounting breezes lightly danced through our wooden deck today as Joel and I munched on delectable lemon bread spread with tangy lemon frosting. Sipping our tea between bites, I asked him what was on his mind.

“You have never gotten over Poland, mama, have you?”

“What do you mean?” I was surprised by his question.

“It seems when you lived in Europe, you were around people who were willing to give everything for the sake of sharing their faith, bringing light to a very dark region of the world. I think you have never found that kind of spiritual fellowship again. So maybe you will have the opportunity to be involved in more ministry like that when you move for a bit to the UK again.:

Your children are always watching you and taking in what is going on in your heart even when you aren’t aware of it.

One of the reasons I wrote Awaking Wonder was that I wanted to deeply impress on the hearts of parents how deeply and profoundly important it is to help light a fire of vision in the hearts and minds of their children. Jesus felt deep compassion and sorrow for those who longed for love, leadership, purpose and didn’t have anyone to help them. He knew that they were made for his kingdom, but the leadership amongst the Jewish people had become corrupt and did not even see the needs of the people, the sheep in their own flock.

Jesus goes on to say, “The harvest is plentiful the workers are few, therefore beseech the Lord of the Harvest to send laborers into the harvest.” Matt 9: 37

In other words, the harvest, those who long for the Lord, who hunger to know Him, who were made to be a part of His purpose in the world, are floundering about without people to have compassion on them, without those who would love them and bring them light.

If we know Jesus, we are to be His words, HIs love, His hands that comfort and soothe and our willingness to work hard, to give our lives that others might know Him, And our children need to be raised knowing that they, too, are called.

Today, on my podcast, I will read a portion of Awaking Wonder, that gets to the heart of this message. This world is hostile to the gospel love and message of Jesus, in general. But each person you see was made to know God. As we get to know Him, our hearts will change. He will fill us with His love, His generosity, a willingness to lay down our lives, our pride and to humbly reach out to others. Today, we must respond and teach our children, our neighbors, our friends, to respond to Christ, to find HIs truth and leadership and purpose, that they might have eternal purpose to live every day. This is central to the heart of Christ. If we are to please Him, we must give our lives to reach out to those in our lives who deeply need to know Him. This is the central call of those who have believed Christ and vowed to serve Him.

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Awaking Wonder: Opening Your Child's Heart to the Beauty of Learning

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Awaking Wonder: Beauty Ignites A Desire to Learn & podcast

“Just think,” I had whispered in the moment of seeing a shooting star sprinting across the darkness of our night sky, “Job tells us that when God created the world, the stars all sang. Can you imagine it? Stars singing? You can almost hear singing as you look up now into the night sky! And then in response, the angels shouted with joy, probably a lot like a crowd cheering enthusiastically at a ball game. It must have been quite the celebration.”

Sarah’s soft voice emerged from her hiddenness. “David wrote that the heavens are declaring the glory of God,” she remembered aloud.

“Mama,” quipped Joy innocently, “I want to ask God what it was like when He painted the stars gold, silver, and blue and how He decided on those colors. I want to tell Him I love what He made!” And then she snuggled closer to me and sighed with a release of the adrenaline she had carried through her little-girl day.

“I wish I could harness a shooting star and ride through the heavens,” Nathan pronounced.
My imagination, alive with thoughts swirling, started working on ideas popping into my own mind for the next morning. Light, space, infinitude of the stars, galaxies, constellations; “Let there be light.”

Joel suggested, “I want to read about stars tomorrow.”
“I want to draw us all lying here with the mountains and trees and Milky Way all around us,” said Nathan, our relational prince.

Over the next few days, we read a book about constellations, and Joel found a video online that showed the extent of our galaxy. Nathan borrowed a telescope from a friend. Researching the Milky Way, stars, and constellations filled hours of our days. We found a book that explained and displayed the major planets, the solar system, nebulas. At our dinner table, the older three spoke with excitement and reported what they had learned while Joy colored her own picture of the night sky.

This led to that, and Galileo, Copernicus, gravity, orbiting, black holes, and comets became subjects of research. Nightly dinner-table discussion from what Clay had found to read aloud combined with “Daddy, listen to what I learned today.” We memorized Psalm 19:1–6 and heartily agreed that the heavens were indeed declaring the glory of God and imagined David the shepherd crafting this from his own perch on a desert mountain while guarding sheep. Sarah and Joel composed a little poem, expressing their delight and thoughts about what had impressed them these weeks we spent in the company of the heavens.

Once again, as the summer came to an end, we returned to the beauty of our deck, the silence speaking to our hearts, and submitted to the breezes blowing, the sky dancing, and the sleep that eventually enveloped us all.

Awaking Wonder, for us, was often simply opening our eyes to the beauty around us, then diving into whatever that beauty caused us to wonder about!

Have you ever thought about learning like this? Read more about it in my newest book, Awaking Wonder!

Awaking Wonder: Opening Your Child's Heart to the Beauty of Learning

By Clarkson, Sally

The Awaking Wonder Experience: A Guided Companion

By Clarkson, Sally, Clarkson, Clay

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Finding A Way Forward: Misfits in the Storms of Life

"For even when we came into Macedonia our flesh had no rest, but we were afflicted on every side: conflicts without, fears within.  But God, who comforts the depressed, comforted us by the coming of Titus; and not only by his coming, but also by the comfort with which he was comforted in you, as he reported to us your longing, your mourning, your zeal for me; so that I rejoiced even more."  2 Corinthians 7:5-7

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Almost everyone I talk to is, in some way, weary, down or discouraged or downright depressed. We were made to be able to refuel, to have community, to gather as believers to encourage one another, to be able to go out and about freely. This is a time when many of us feel the stress pressing down on us.

Feeling like a misfit is also something I have dealt with for many years. I am an idealist and passionate about living life purposefully in a world that is violent, relentless, filled with conflict and argumentative. This drains me to my toenails. And yet, from feeling this way before, I know that I am in good company—Job despaired of his life while being one of the godliest men on earth, same with Elijah, Jeremiah and more.

As a "good Christian woman" I used to think that if I was truly loving God and walking with Him, I would have a positive, faith-filled attitude all the time. Guilt for disappointing God would occasionally stand pointing it's finger of accusation and I would feel disappointed in myself in an existential way. 

Yet, as an older woman, I have become intimately acquainted with the seasons of life and have come to realize that disappointment in others, disgust with the world's values, despair with some of the raging darkness in the international as well as personal arena of my life, was a common experience through my years and also for many through out scripture. 

Many years ago, many storms back, I wrote: The joy-filled life is not found by diminishing my God-given responsibilities as a woman, wife, and mother, nor can I find joy merely by refusing to face the hard realities of life in a fallen world. There is a tension that God is asking me to acknowledge and accept ~ the tension between ideals and realities. True joy is found by living somewhere between the ideal life and daily realities. That is where Jesus meets me, where His Holy Spirit empowers, and where I learn how to live the Christian life with supernatural joy. To celebrate life is simply a choice." -Seasons of a Mother's Heart

Hebrews 11 is a chapter in the Bible I come to again and again. Here we see the heroes of faith, those who have lived boldly, stepped out in faith, “conquered kingdoms, closed the mouths of lions,” and more. But we read, finally, that these were not looking for satisfaction or fulfillment in this world, but waiting expectantly for God to reveal His kingdom that would not be shaken. We see in the list Moses, David, Gideon, Daniel and so many more:

By faith these people overthrew kingdoms, ruled with justice, and received what God had promised them. They shut the mouths of lions,  quenched the flames of fire, and escaped death by the edge of the sword. Their weakness was turned to strength. They became strong in battle and put whole armies to flight.  Women received their loved ones back again from death.

But others were tortured, refusing to turn from God in order to be set free. They placed their hope in a better life after the resurrection. Hebrews 11: 33-35

May we be like these heroes of faith, looking to God, investing in His kingdom ways, even now amidst the darkness, and may we live for our lives after the resurrection.

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Overprotecting Our Children--Is It Really a Bad Thing?

When I see a photo of my precious little granddaughter, Lily, innocently, and with full heart, exploring her world, my heart melts. I long for her to feel the freedom to imagine, to play, to wonder. about her worlds, free of the darkness. and stupidity of what is rolling around in the news and in a broken world. She can only grow strong inside if she is able to establish her foundations on that which is beautiful and sure. I want to protect her from all that is draining, dark, false, so that she can have an opportunity to lay foundations of love, goodness, true ideas and thought. I want to protect her from the dark world until she has had time to grow roots, or to find footing in what is true. I am one of her guardians, along with Sarah and Thomas, and the rest of our family, to watch over her heart, mind and soul.

Have you ever been accused of being "overprotective?" I often wonder what exactly people would prefer us to do; to "under-protect," perhaps? And of course, whatever is less than what they personally do would be underprotective and whatever goes beyond what they're comfortable with would be overprotective.

"Parents are often criticized for being overprotective of their children, an apparently bad thing to do in the world's way of thinking. That caricature, though, originates in a culture of passive parental neglect that is almost dysfunctionally underprotective of its children. Even though it is a pejorative term in secular parenting lingo, you should not be reluctant to bear it as a badge of honor as a caring and committed Christian parent. God wants you to be an overprotective parent! Your children, by God's design, need an overprotector, a parent who will stand over them to protect them--to guard their innocence and purity, to prevent spiritual wounds and sinful footholds, and teach discernment and sensitivity to sin. In God's design for families, overprotecting your children is a good thing.

Still, the enemy is very good at infiltrating even good Christian homes with corrupting influences ... With technologies such as cable and satellite TV, computers and the Internet, a constant river of information, images, and ideas can flow freely into your home, much of it good, but too much of it ungodly and corrupt. You can control that flow, but when your children interact in the community with other children, those children all too often are deeply influenced, informed and indoctrinated by the same river--often without controls on its flow of the worst that culture has to offer--and they will offer it freely to your children. The only thing that is standing between those and other influences, and your child's heart and mind, is a committed overprotector--you! If you don't have a heart that beats strongly with a passion to protect your children against unhealthy appetites, unwise relationships, and ungodly secular media, you can be certain that the enemy stands ready to take full advantage of any holes in your commitment and to exploit your children's innocence, vulnerability, and receptiveness. Diligence is the price you pay for staying safe on the path."

~ Clay Clarkson, Educating the Wholehearted Child

Protecting our children is such an important thing to consider as we live well with them for the time they are under our complete care. While many push parents to give their children more autonomy early in life, which seems to somehow apply mostly to online environments and media choices these days, ultimately, it is important to remember that our children are just that--children. They are in need of protection, which is why God gave them to parents who are charged to guard and protect them until such time as they can stand on their own. Even then, we are to speak words of life and wisdom to them, encouraging them to follow God's precepts and listen for His voice of direction.

I'm grateful for my own Shepherd, who watches over and protects me, guiding me with His staff, leading me beside still waters and making me lie down in green pastures. How wonderful that He has given me this image and example to follow as I care for and nurture my own children. And if that's being overprotective ... I'll take it!

Are you often accused of being an overprotective parent? What’s a way you could respond to that accusation with grace and truth?

Awaking Wonder: Opening Your Child's Heart to the Beauty of Learning

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Home Sweet Home: The Place That Holds & Embraces Me & podcast

"The task of building our homes into places of beauty and life that will feed the hearts, souls, and minds of our children is the most comprehensive task to which God has called us as mothers. We are called quite literally to be "home makers" - to plan and shape a home environment that provides our families with both a safe resting place and a launching pad for everything they do in the world." -

The Mission of Motherhood

I’ve only been away on a speaking trip, my first one since covid, since Monday, two days ago, but during this weary time of book launching and life, as I walked in my door today, my home embraced me warmly and said, “Hello, Sally mama, You belong here!”

As I walked in, Clay yelled from the kitchen, “I have the tea kettle on and will pour our tea in a minute. Fresh bread is cut and we can have tea and toast out on the deck.”

For the next lovely hour, I was with my boys, (and Nathan even came up in the conversation a few times.).

We are the ones left at home. We belong to one another. We have our life rituals that have been carved out of the stuff of life to bring civilization, order, dimension, beauty, goodness, companionship and LIFE within our walls and time. Home supports the goodness of our work, our love, our faith. It is the holding place for all that we cherish.

As I have been pondering Awaking Wonder, I cannot wait to get back to my normal discipleship themes. That is where my home came from—following the heart of Christ and shaping a place that celebrates his life, creativity, love and messages. Can’t wait in the days ahead to talk to you about what has been bubbling up in my heart.

So, tonight, my podcast and blog post will be shorter because I am going to “sup” on breakfast for dinner as Joel makes me an egg scramble with bacon, eggs, onions, cheese and avocado—it is what we do when we don’t want to think of what to cook. This, too, is home and we know what to expect and how to live this ritual because it is a repeated life liturgy of Clarkson.

What are your home liturgies? Your values? What does your home say about you? Your faith? Your creativity? Your life.

When I think of home, I think of...

Candles flickering... Familiar Music playing from the other room...

My four children discussing... Plenty of giggling...

The aroma of freshly baked cookies... Various books in baskets on shelves in every room,

Calligraphy of verses, quotes sprinkled on tables around the house

magazines, Bibles, art prints, family photos...

Strong cups of tea...

Strong Coffee with half and half foam

Fresh flowers on display...

Musical instruments-guitar, piano, dulcimer,

A Basketball backboard

Rocking Chairs, art pencils scattered amongst drawings and sketch books Kelsey the golden retriever stealing goodies off of someone's plate, tail wagging as she runs off...

Awaken Your Own Wonder and Imagine What personality your home has and how are you building a place where you belong and that supports your life.

The Awaking Wonder Experience: A Guided Companion

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Awaking Wonder: Opening Your Child's Heart to the Beauty of Learning

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Secret to Awaking Wonder to Learning & Podcast

Awakening a Love of Learning

“What was your secret to raising such articulate, interesting children? I follow them online. What curriculum did you use?”

This is the question that comes my way almost daily. Yet, there is no formula or set of perfect books.

Yet, I did find the secret! Human beings are naturally created with a desire to know, to understand, to solve mysteries, to see and explore. Yet, having a real live person to lead into such wonders of the worlds of ideas and beauty is enfleshed through real live guides who lead the way enthusiastically to open doors to these worlds. To gain mental muscie, the power of knowing and being able to express an idea gives a child and adult a sort of power in their worlds. Children love to display this sort of intelligence, this prowess at gaining knowledge, confidence of holding something that matters.

“Watch me, mama!” “Mama, did you know?”

“… Education is about relationship, about being worthy of the hope of our children. Taking seriously the stewardship of their trust as we guide them should be an underlying motivation of our hearts as we commit to influencing them. We are passing on a life, not just information.

Learning, growing in curiosity, pondering ideas, and creating new thoughts are not dependent primarily on academic studies or finding the right curriculum. It is not only about teaching every fact or subject our students need to know. Instead, it is about an organic lifestyle that synthesizes family, home, classroom, and life, and honors the human beings we serve. This means our plans will be constantly changing; we will grow and be stretched, developing life-giving goals in the scope of our moments.

The heart of a mentor is to act in relationship for the benefit, development, and well-being of his student. A worthy mentor seeks to maximize the human potential of the one being influenced.

Children draw out of what already lives inside the one who is influencing them. Consequently, as a parent I understand that I must embody what I determine I want my child to cultivate. As my child watches and observes my attitudes, my values, my words, and my behavior, he will ingest what he imagines and understands and then emulate it.

We cannot leave the role of shaping our children to institutions or authorities who do not have ultimate responsibility for their lives. Nor can we suppose that the life messages passed on by those institutions or authorities are in agreement with our own philosophies. Messages are not neutral. They have power and influence. Whether we want the role of teacher or not, it is ours.

If, as Jesus says, the student will become like his teacher, then to become a good teacher, we must examine our own lives. What have I stored inside my heart, mind, and soul? Does my character reflect the integrity I hope my child will imitate? Am I exhibiting the attitudes that I want my child to exhibit? Do I love those around me unconditionally so that my child can understand the love of God?

Picturing my children’s hearts as treasure chests where they could gather stories, ideas, ideals, habits, appetites, truth, and knowledge to draw from the rest of their lives, I sought to fill the space in their hearts with all that was good, beautiful, and true. As you can see from the photo above, I collected rousing stories, books that inspired, classics that have been cherished through the years. It was not always neat but always full of mystery and wonder.

Yet, I had to possess the wisdom they needed before I could pass on this wisdom. I realized that my intentionality to call them to their best selves meant that I had to be living into my best self. This accountability to who they would become stretched my own muscle and helped me to grow every day as I pursued the ideals we shared together.”

—Sally Clarkson, Awaking Wonder: Opening Your Child's Heart to the Beauty of Learning

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Awaking Wonder: The Secret Of Loving Children Well

The Secret to Loving Children Well

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Too many times I have had to get up early, serve up one last cheesy egg and homemade bread breakfast with strong Yorkshire Gold Tea, only to rush to get suitcases, passports, last minutes clothes and with high adrenalin, drive one of my beloved children to the airport to take off to far away places. The Denver airport is an hour drive door to door from our home, so we always get one more, “I love you,” and “didn’t we have fun,” and “Be careful when you get there,” messages that have been repeated countless times.

My children are truly my best friends and now, mentors. I love spending time with them, the conversations, the shared memories of sitting on the porch after an evening walk to watch the sun go down and to settle the issues of our days.

Yet, I know that in loving them, I have to put them in God’s capable hands and send them out with a “Fly, fly, precious one. Fulfill your destiny, pursue your ideals, your story will be a great one.”

Freedom to live into the possibilities of all that they were created to do. They are not mine to hold on to—they are loaned to me, but they are now living into His purposes, His life for them, His calling. Today, I will share with you what I wrote in my book, Awaking Wonder

“People asked me what our secrets were for influencing our children.

This is the secret:

Loving them well, generously, all the time, in every situation.

Being loved specifically and intentionally adds to our physical well- being, our spiritual equilibrium, our emotional health, but also our mental strength and health.

Probably the most important influence of my whole life in learning to interact in a healthy way with all people, including children, came from pondering Jesus and the way He embodied life-giving influence.

The attitude with which we come to our children will affect much of their response to us as teachers.

We can all see that humans are not thriving, in general. Despair, depression, loneliness, isolation, and rising suicide rates are common plights. But we must see that unless we return to a more humane and personal way of investing our lives, people will continue to grow more troubled, more impersonal, more distant.

To create a life where the hours and moments can be filled in satisfying interaction means that we must choose to fill the time our children could be engaged with machines or other entertainment with planned personal time that satisfies to the depths of their hearts, minds, and souls.

All of us need a place where our roots can grow deep and where we are a part of a like-minded community and have a safe refuge from the storms of life. Home can also give wings to dreams, nurturing possibilities of who we might become.

All homes will have a personality of their own, but part of loving well is planning the life and shaping the character that will define the unique attributes of the family who dwells there.

When a parent makes it a habit to be affectionate to a child in a way that accompanies their personality needs, there is an automatic connection. … affection is a sure sign of closeness and preference that often softens the instruction of a parent to a child.

As we evaluate how to love our children and students well, we must ask ourselves, ‘Do they believe and feel I have their best interests in mind, or do they think I have my own agenda for them?’ ‘Do they understand that even though they struggle, I am here to help them succeed?’ ‘Is their heart open to my instruction, or is there a wedge of resistance that I need to figure out and address?’”

—Sally Clarkson, “Awaking Wonder: Opening Your Child's Heart to the Beauty of Learning”

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Awaking Wonder: Opening Your Child's Heart to the Beauty of Learning

By Clarkson, Sally

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Ahhhh, Ideals! On Reaching Higher

Girl in a Hammock, Winslow Homer

This picture makes me long for a mountain breeze, a deep hammock, a cup of tea, an engrossing book and an open-ended afternoon.

I can probably swing one of those, with the open-ended afternoon being perhaps the most elusive of the four. But one can always dream!

In many ways, the beautiful classic art pieces I love are evidence of ideals I hold. Perhaps they're indicative of the way I wish life were, more often than the way it actually is. Perhaps you, too find yourself longing for life to be more settled, more peaceful, more predictable, more tame than you find it.

As I wrote several years ago in my book, The Mom Walk ...

"I am a deeply romantic woman, always yearning for a picture-perfect home--fires on the hearth with feasts and laughter nearby, pleasant and gracious conversations, an ambience of beauty and peace. I write about my ideals. I breathe my ideals in the secret moments of my life. I want a picture-perfect marriage where I am adored and appreciated. I want my children to be healthy, happy, and harmonious. I want strong friendships and a stable community with friends. I want an extended family to be close to us and to provide my children with love and support and lots of godly input. I want there to be money for all the bills, a home that isn't always exploding with messes, and time to sit and read a good book and ponder life.

These longings are not wrong. Ideals and the desire for beauty are simply the echoes of God's design in our hearts. He was the one who designed the world to be a masterpiece of wonder and life. The yearning for peace, health, and comfort is natural to our souls and comes from the depths of our hearts where we can still feel and imagine what God created life to be before the fall."

I think God is the biggest Idealist of all. He created everything in a perfect state, and someday He will "restore all things." (Acts 3:21.) I think He understands my heart's longing for a beautiful life and fulfilling relationships.

I think He feels just the same way I do. When I long for life to line up with His ideals, I reflect His own heart. When I create pleasing settings, soothe ruffled feelings, play beautifully crafted music, offer grace to a tired and cranky child, or prepare a hearty meal that fills stomachs and enriches souls as we share ideas around the table, I remind those who share in the moments with me that we are, indeed, sons and daughters of a King, meant for more than workaday life in this broken world.

This, too is part of awaking wonder and growing in learning together at home!

 How can you remind those around you, today?

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Awaking Wonder: Opening Your Child's Heart to the Beauty of Learning

By Clarkson, Sally

The Awaking Wonder Experience: A Guided Companion

By Clarkson, Sally, Clarkson, Clay