If I were really spiritual, ......

I would have taken the time to write an encouraging post to tell you all the great thoughts I had in my quiet time today. (I leave every Thursday morning early to go to a hotel and have coffee and have an extended time by myself where no one can get to me. And I catch up on some email then, too.) But instead, I came home and ate fresh hot blueberry crisp that Sarah had made, took a 15 minute nap and made mushroom, onion, bacon, swiss cheese crustless quiche. And after dinner we are going to the small lake near our home for a walk.

So what did you do instead of doing something "important" today? :) Have a great evening.

The World's way, theBiblical way

Consider, consider......the lilies of the field.

The world is noisy, busy, active, loud, relentless

The Bible says, "Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life."

The world says, power, money, things.

The Bible says, lay up your treasures in heaven. Man looks at the outward appearance, the Lord looks at the heart.

The World says, beauty is on the outside.

The Bible says, "Man looks at the outward appearance, the Lord looks at the heart.

The World says to live for today, live for yourself, seek pleasure and fulfillment now.

The Word says, live for eternity, in this world you have tribulation, to lay up treasures in heaven.

The  world says leadership is an issue of position and power.

The Bible says, "He who gains his life will lose it. He who loses his life in this world, shall gain it." The Bible promotes servant leadership, as modeled by Jesus washing feet.

The world says, children are not of the most important. They abort them, place them in babysitting options. The world says, children take your time, are expensive, bothersome.

Jesus says, "Woe to the one who causes the least of these to stumble." He says of children, "Unless you become like a child, you will not inherit the kingdom of God." He says, "Children are a blessing from God. The fruit of the womb is a reward."

The world says, "Accomplish, do something great you can be proud of--awards, degrees, position.

Jesus says, "I am humble and meek, learn from me."

The world's way of ministry is to the masses in large churches, on television, radio, blogs and websites, mostly dynamic and impersonal and focussed on the theology, measured in numbers reached.

Jesus built deep relationships for three years with a dozen men and a few others in a community of friends.His ministry was small and personal, meeting needs, eating meals, living life with a focussed few, serving and dying for them.

Jesus did not leave the vicinity of his ministry to go into the world. He never traveled more than 50 miles from Galilee. He never wrote a book, spoke on television, wrote a blog, lived prominently.

Yet, God took his message into the world so that more words and books have been written about him than any other,  Countless ministries have reached millions and millions of  people with his redemptive message. Lives have been changed, centuries of history have rendered totally different because of the power of truth lived out and spoken from the quiet, gentle, humble life of Christ lived with integrity during His time on the earth.

Is the way He lived still relevant to this "connected", web based, busy, technological, virtual, impersonal culture? Could Jesus still live through me, faithfully, quietly, personally, powerfully right where I am and have the impact of my life of integrity reach the far corners of the earth if I lived according to his ways, and not the worlds?

How should this apply to me and help me to determine my priorities and values as I seek to live for His glory. How do I live a humble, personal, heart centered, servant-oriented, children valuing, eternally focussed life, focussed on listening to Him and closing out the voices of the world?

The Home Sick? Part 1

The village we stayed in in England where I was hiding and pondering life! (in Devon)

As I was away on my trip to England, I had time to consider and re-evaluate where I am going to focus my life and time in the years ahead. I always like to pull away and ponder how to be intentional, what I can cut out, and how to keep focused and centered in my ideals. There have been three times over the years of family and ministry when the Lord has very specifically called me to cut back or purge my life and activities, so to speak--and this is the third time.

At heart, I am a "feeler" on Myers Briggs and I love to reach out in relationships and meet needs and "be there" for my friends. However, getting spread too thin in the mire of a national presence with articles, books, speaking, fb, twitter and all the rest, I have found that I need to put some new borders and boundaries around my life, so that I can remain focused and centered in my home with my sweet family.

I actually love my family and love my children and who they have become and still find that they need me all the time. To keep my home a peaceful place, with homemade meals on the table, needs met, conversations free and to be available to help meet their needs, requires a lot from me.

I also want to end well. I want to have heard from the voice of Jesus and to have known His heart and to have obeyed Him. So, at present, I am still working out what that will look like practically.

When I was in London, and met here and there with many people, I was convicted again about just how important the home is to God's plan. (Read my blog from yesterday.) When a home is a haven of life and instruction in righteous teaching and training of character and intimate relationships, where love of God is modeled in each season and moment of life, then a human soul has the opportunity to be cultivated and developed upon excellent mental, spiritual and emotional food and can develop into a healthy, strong, vibrant soul.

Yet, when there is no intentional home life for children, they will become subject to whatever philosophy and morality is being spread about in the world. And so, we were surrounded by people whose whole lives had been built upon humanism, the immorality displayed in modern movies and media, and whose appetites were defined by advertising, materialism and commercialism.

And so, I have perceived over the years that the Homes in many of our nations are sick--deficient, weak in influence, and not a place of leadership training, but places so simply stay alive with outside culture and media defining the very soul of those dwelling there.

Satan is alive and active and wants to perpetrate a godless philosophy. He must hate families and especially hate those who give themselves to the divine work of the family, because when strong relationships are forged, accountability and influence follows. I remember when I lived and worked in Communist countries in the 70's that I read a lot about communism and socialism to better understand those who were my target audience for the gospel. Stalin wrote that if you could own the hearts of the children, by placing them in daycare and public schools by the time they were two, then you could wipe out religion, faith and morality in the next generation. How true he wrote.

In light of that, I have been praying just how I can be the best steward possible of what I have learned Biblically about family, parenting, mothering and walking with God in my life-time. I know that when I see Jesus face to face, He will hold me accountable for what I know.

Writing

God has made me a writer since I was a little girl. I think about writing when I am in the shower, in the car, when I am cleaning house, all the time. And so I have quiet times, study the word and then want to write about what God has taught me. I have 3 immediate books I feel that I would like to write that I hope would be of great encouragement to women. Each of these would come with Bible studies and a planner of how to strategically plan in intentional life for the Lord.

The Ministry of Jesus was personal

The way Jesus literally turned the world upside down in his lifetime was by building deeply into the lives of his disciples who went into the world with his messages. Of course this is why Clay and I focussed our home training for our children on home discipleship, to send them back out into the world to reach their world for Christ.

But I also love discipleship--training other women how to think Biblically, how to know and study the word, how to understand a Biblical home, how to become a teacher of wisdom, how to be a Titus 2 woman to other women.

And so the first part of that application is that I will continue to hold  Mom's conferences, where women can come together and hear Biblical speakers and then go home with a book in hand to study with their friends about the ministry and mission of motherhood, and books on how to walk with God. Wherever there are groups of women living in fellowship with high ideals, they are much more likely to hold fast to those ideals and to encourage and pray for each other. So developing more small groups online and in reality is one of my main focuses.

Mom's Intensives

I also want to play the role of  a Titus 2 woman and pass on personally what I have learned from 27 years as a mom, 30 years in marriage and 35 years in full time ministry. Hosting intimate training times in my home, where moms can taste home-cooked food, listen to Biblical instruction, share in close fellowship and ask questions, have time to plan and pray about developing a plan for their personal lives and ministry, is something I want to keep doing each year. I consider these 3 day seminars as sort of Mom's Biblical Institutes. (Date: August 11, starting 5:00 p.m. ending Saturday night, August 13, leaving Sunday morning, August 14, Monument, Co. Flying into Denver, Colorado)

This will be a time of hard work, intense speaking and note taking, working and hopefully the women who attend will come out with a much clearer vision and inspiration of how to live and leave a godly legacy.Last year the women who attended developed friendships with kindred spirits from all over the US, Canada and China.

Because if my mom's possible imminent death, and other family issues, we had to postpone scheduling these intensives until just a few weeks ago. Because many of the issues have not resolved, (my mom is still hanging on), we decided to just have one intensive training this year at my home in Monument. We have taken the intensive application off the website because we did not want too many people to apply and be disappointed.

We have a few places left, and so if you are interested, please write to admin@wholeheart.org We have lowered the price of the training to $450 dollars, because in my home town, I will not have to fly in speakers or house them at a hotel and pay for their meals. The tuition includes 3 nights of a hotel, (2 to a double room--individual rooms would be more); all gourmet meals, tea times, note book, speakers, favors and  personal training with me and my team of leaders. We have filled almost all of the places but we have just a few places left. If you are interested in finding out more, please contact our office at the above address or call at 888-488-4466 and ask for some information to be sent to you. We are only allowing 20 people to attend, (up to 24 if we get overwhelming response.)

I can't wait to tell you what else is in our plans--and of course they always include you--all of you who come to a conference, give a book away, lead a group are a part of a great group of women reaching out to help us strengthen families all over the world. More tomorrow!

I think this special training is going to be life-changing and a blessing.

Clay and I never personally benefit from any ministry meetings, but we do hope to use the remaining finances to help support Mom's movements that are starting internationally, as we never require any leaders to pay when they come here from beyond North America. At this training we will have 4 international guests who are hoping to start mom heart groups and training in their own countries.

I have learned so very much about being still and hearing God's voice--More thoughts tomorrow about moving toward a simpler life.

A Giveaway--with more to come!

I will be posting about all sorts of things in the weeks ahead. Can't wait to connect with you again, but meanwhile am celebrating life with my family and enjoying each minute. Apologia is giving away a new copy of our book Educating the Whole Hearted Child. Be sure to connect to them and find out how to join! We will also be giving away some of our books soon! You can help us get the word out. You will be blessed. Reading through it has made me want to have more kids and do it all over again!

Love and grace to each of you today!

Givaway right here!

In the midst of summer flurry, pondering this.....

"Following the Lord may mean leaving behind things we really care about--things that seem worthwhile but are not God's best."

Sally Clarkson

There is nothing new under the sun. When I look back at some of the things I have written, it speaks to me still as a thought worth pondering. It is exactly where I am right now--the pruning stage.

I have so many wonderful blessings and people and opportunities, but only one life to live well.

Activities, lessons, commitments can appeal to us as we ponder what to commit to in a new school year. We don't want our children to "miss out" on any opportunity. Yet, being so busy, having so many commitments can steal energy, money and time to invest in each others hearts, minds and souls. 

One day, I was sitting on our front porch munching on fresh lemon cake and sipping tea with my boys who had returned home from New York City and LA for just a few days together as a family. 

"Why do you love to come home? What do you think made you feel an attachment to home and to each other?"

Both boys said the same thing. "It was the meals every night, the candlelight, the music, the sense of always having a place to belong. The food we all loved, the conversations we shared, the friendships we forged together."

Sometimes it is the simple, face to face, "I care about you and so I am going to spend time with you," times that win our children's hearts, that lay a foundation of security and stability that is more important than all the activities in the world. 

This last few days of summer, make your moments count. Create some chocolate chip cookie moments outside under the shade to talk to your sweet ones. Make a favorite dinner, just because they enjoy it. Celebrate a day and tell them you are happy today because you are so glad they are your own precious children and this is what they will remember when they leave your home. 

 

Intentionality of a Holy Life

Holiness means, at its core, to be set aside-dedicated to a different or righteous purpose for God's glory. I have been pondering, these quiet days away from normal life, what it is God has for me in the next season of my life. One of the first verses I read when I opened my Bible on my trip was,

"For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may be recompensed for his deeds in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad. II Corinthians 5: 10

As I have been away, I have been contemplating what Jesus wants me to do with the rest of my life--when I see Him face to face, what will I have to say to Him about how I invested my time for His love and for His glory.

I know that my time here has me convinced that I want to be spending more time listening to His voice--studying His word, leaving the voices of the world behind in order to see Him, love Him and hear Him. But I am trying to figure out just what that means for me.

I meet lots of wonderful people but so very few who seem intentional about seeking Him, who have been so much in His presence that He spills over from their heart to mine.

So my question today is this, "What does it mean to you to hear His voice and to be able to obey His voice? What are His values that He would show us are His priorities in contrast to those of the world or even of Christian churches? What work does He want us to be about so that when we meet Him face to face, we can present a stewardship of having listened to and followed His voice? "

Any thoughts? I have 2 more days and then I will be home with my wonderful family all returning from adventures and I hope I will have some answers and direction to follow Him into..........Blessings of His peace to you this fine weekend!

And only one thing

"but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her."

Enoch walked with God, and he was not, for God took Him.

I want to be like Mary--choosing the one thing.

I want to be like Enoch-walking with God in such a way that that is my reputation.

But I know that I must make choices to be with Him in such a way.

I feel like I have reached the finish line of a long marathon run. By God's grace, I just graduated my last child after being involved in the home school movement for 27 years. What a privilege it has been to follow the Lord and see His faithfulness through all the curves and twists of my path as a mom.

Now, though, I find myself greatly involved in my outside ministry, my writing and speaking responsibilities. Yet, I want to be sure that in the next phase of life, I listen to the Lord's voice and not the voices of the world or the demands of deadlines.

And so, I will be retreating from the public arena for a couple of weeks to rest, seek the Lord, read and pray. I want to hear God's voice in my life to say, "This is the way, walk in it."

I desire to have time to worship Him and deepen my walk with Him every day. I want to close the voices of culture and be one of those people who hear Him and what is on His heart at this time in history, but I know I have always had to make limiting choices in order to be able to listen to that voice.

Usually it means a radical decision of some kind, that pulls me away from the mid-stream, but eventually back to personal ministry--meeting the needs of real people. And so I will be seeking to hear just how to best invest my life in the next few years, for His will, for the best for my marriage and family!

In these weeks, our new version of Educating the Whole Hearted Child will be coming available from the printers. I am amazed at all the work Clay did to make it such a great work. It will be 384 pages and I know many of you have been asking about it. Stay tuned as Clay will be writing a blog about it just as soon as it is available.

I have been working on some posts that will be coming out, so even though I will not be present, I will be with you in my writing.

I covet your prayers for me as I seek Him and get away. Blessings of His grace to all of you as you make that time to hear His voice for you and for your family.

Taking time to laugh, taking time to see

The many faces and facets of Joy--

Sixteen years ago today, a miracle happened. I had three children, three miscarriages (from one I almost died), and just begore my 42 birthday, I was blessed with this precious daughter, an answer to prayer. I felt like I was given one more chance by God to shepherd a child through this world, to show her His love, to cherish her and release her into the work He had designed her to do for His glory.

Joy as Anne of Green Gables

Joy is like her name--brings Joy, love, sparkle and energy wherever she is. She is beautiful of soul and in life. We stay up late sharing hearts almost every night. Constantly thinking, evaluating, wondering, reading and sharing--she is a leader of young women and a delight to my life.

While shopping in Boston--the laughter around Joy never ceases.

My days are busy, demanding, overwhelming, but God has said, "Open you eyes, see with your heart, don't miss one moment to see the beauty of a child I have entrusted into your hands. You have this one opportunity to engage your heart fully and to affirm, celebrate and love this person I have entrusted into your hands providentially named Joy.

So, Happy Birthday my wonderful. I love you and am so very happy you are in my life.

The traditional blindfolded march to the surprises.

The Loot

The Satisfied, sweet and sleepy princess with her new summer hat!

It's an issue of personal character

Saturday morning Birthday Brunch Surprise Party for Sarah

Almost every night, without fail, we gather round the dining table, light candles, turn on music and share in the comfort and pleasure of each other's friendship and a meal shared together. I will write about the role that feasting and breaking of bread together has in discipleship another time.

Last night, I was in a hurry, so Sarah threw together Oatmeal muffins and I made potato soup in about ten minutes. (a favorite of our family--and it is rainy and 40 degrees here!)

As per Clarkson values, someone started a discussion on personal morality. I plunged into the conversation and asked, "Why do you stay morally pure? What has kept each of you committed to moral purity, even in the midst of living in very post modern, liberal places?"

The conversation took twists and turns and loudness of voice as they told stories for friends, shared convictions, and pontificated a bit. (The culture of eating meals together regularly!)

"Why have so many capitulated to the cultural standard even though raised in Christian homes?" became a focus of the topic.

SELF-GOVERNMENT--PRINCIPLES OF OWNING OUR OWN LIVES OF EXCELLENCE was the line repeated by all of the kids. And then they chimed in together,

"I CANNOT MAKE YOU HOLY. I CANNOT MAKE YOU CHOOSE TO BE EXCELLENT. YOU HAVE A WILL AND YOU HAVE TO DECIDE IN YOUR HEART WHAT KIND OF PERSON YOU WANT TO BE. WHEN YOU DECIDE TO OBEY AND CHOOSE TO BE HOLY, YOU WILL BE BUILDING A CHARACTER FOR YOURSELF THAT WILL SERVE YOU THE REST OF YOUR LIFE."

I guess I had repeated it so many times, that it was burned onto their consciences--the idea of self-government, ruling over your life and being a steward of all that you have been given and taught.

I think that many parents are trying to moralize their children--rule based. Now moral ideals and principles must be taught.

But teaching must reach the heart to inspire. Inspiration creates the environment in the hearts, minds and souls of children to wanting to be a hero, wanting to have a marriage based on the partnership of two people called together to make an impact for the kingdom of God.

And of course, the daddy added, "If a child does not have a proper self-image of who he is, what he wants to become, confident of the calling and character in his life of being based on unchanging truth, then that child will be subject to the whims and sways of culture."

And so, looking back, I would have personal quiet times, read great authors and inspiring theologians who made me want to serve Christ radically, and then I would sit in the humble surroundings of our living room with pajama clad, milk mustached children and share passionately about the significance of their lives and how God could use a normal person, just like them, to change the world. We would speak of battles, and becoming warriors and heroes. We would speak of great stories, that choices had consequences. And then I would say, "But you have a choice to make. Only you can decide to embrace the holiness and greatness of God by faith. I CANNOT MAKE YOU HOLY. I CANNOT MAKE YOU CHOOSE TO BE EXCELLENT. YOU HAVE A WILL AND YOU HAVE TO DECIDE IN YOUR HEART WHAT KIND OF PERSON YOU WANT TO BE. WHEN YOU DECIDE TO OBEY AND CHOOSE TO BE HOLY, YOU WILL BE BUILDING A CHARACTER FOR YOURSELF THAT WILL SERVE YOU THE REST OF YOUR LIFE ."

And so, all concluded that they had understood that holiness and morality is a result of vision, understanding self-government, practicing owning their lives and knowing that it was a matter of their personal character--believing what was true, making choices in light of their convictions, having a high standard of personal character.

So, what did you discuss at the dinner table last night?

Ministry of Motherhood, Mission of Motherhood

Why do I write so much about motherhood? Aren't there other interests or Biblical priorities in my life? Of course my life is much broader than just motherhood. But when I told the Lord I would follow Him anywhere and be his servant, and that I wanted to be "His girl", He very clearly showed me that a stewardship of my life would be to help mothers know how to embrace their call to build their children into devoted followers of Christ.

I was praying last summer about moving to new arenas of ministry and taking some time off. The Lord very clearly brought back a dream he had given to me 15 years before. (That will be in another blog at another time.) But, He seemed to clearly say to me, "Have the mothers of this generation all be trained and inspired? Are families better off? Are children being cared for and intentionally discipled at home?" And I had to look at culture and say, "No, families are fewer, marriages are fewer, and children are being abandoned to culture more quickly than when you called me to be a Titus 2 woman.

And so, I knew that if I wanted to be faithful to God's call on my life, I needed to be faithful to seek to write, train and disciple women to love God, to love their husbands and to love their children, and to build godly, Christian homes.

Jesus always has children on his heart. He warns us, "Woe to the one who causes the least of these to stumble."

And so, Clay and I pray always, how can we as a ministry be a part of God's hand in redeeming the role of family and especially the role of a mother, back to the hearts of those who love Him?

So many of you have helped us in our ministry by reading our books, giving them away, attending conferences, starting book clubs, supporting our ministry. We are so very grateful to have such wonderful partners in this ministry and on this journey.

And so we covet your prayers for us in the days ahead as we seek to find out and plan just which areas God wants us to pursue as we seek to be good stewards of this message He has put on our hearts.

We see Him at work in so many ways, that we must choose how to have integrity in our own personal lives, and how best to be stewards of His message in and through our ministry. Of course that means putting aside many things that are good, and choosing those things which He has called us to do.

In closing, I just wanted to share a video clip I made this weekend for a wonderful group of women called Good Morning Girls who will be studying Ministry of Motherhood this summer online.



In the next couple of days, I will be sending out information about the intensives we will be hosting this summer. I am praying God will fill each of these training conferences with women who will be blessed by the training and who will be able to share what they have learned with others. Thanks so very much for helping us reach women who are hungry for truth, leadership and encouragement in their roles as mothers.